Is he cheating or just ashamed of me

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So I'm having an issue and I want everyone in put in this matter. I recently gave my fiance his wedding ring to make sure he likes it well instead he puts it on and says he will never take it off. So everyday I always see it on his finger ( even tho we haven't married yet) well a couple of days ago he tells me he is going to eat dinner with his family I was completely okay with it knowing I was exhausted and just wanted to go to bed. Well the next morning I asked him if I could use his car because I was having problems with mine. He said of course n I was on my way to work when I looked down n his wedding ring was in the ashtray. I wanted to call him and ask him why it was there but then I started to think was he cheating on me or since he went "with his family" was he ashamed of me. Therefore he had to take off the ring. He then asked me later that day is I happen to find his ring bec it fell off in the car and he couldn't find it on the floor bec he was driving. Now for one thing that's total bs bec it was in the ashtray. And two the ring isn't lose. So my question is to the guys and ladies what would u think of if ur spouse did this. Or is this normal for guys to so this .?

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    I think he's scared to tell his family, that doesn't necessarily mean he's ashamed, that's a huge life decision sometimes, things like that are hard to talk to family about, whether there is any rationality to the anxiety or not dealing with family is just sometimes hard.

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    • Nichole2016
      7 years ago

      He has told his family about me since I have already meet them a long time ago. But can someone become ashamed of u in the long run?

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      • MR.mr
        7 years ago

        telling them your dating and engaged are two very different things, people date lots of people but they hopefully on marry one. It's hard to explain but it's differnt

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        • Nichole2016
          7 years ago

          I completely understand. Idk I'm honestly not the type to argue with him to get a straight answer. Even tho I know he wouldn't give me one since he already lied to me about his "ring falling off" maybe for a guy it's different to be proud of his girl the how a girl will feel about her guy. Just never understood why most men ( not saying all bec there are decent men out there ) have to lie.

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  • darksideofmyheart
    7 years ago

    You might just be overthinking. Try to confront him and ask about finding the ring in the ashtray. If he decides to tell you the truth then good, he's the right one. But if he refuse's and acts as if he had no idea how it got there, then I guess you should rethink about getting married to him. Because once you guys get married, you've got to stay truthful to each other. And if something like this stops him from saying the truth, imagine what other things he might me hiding once you get married. Don't over think, gather up your courage and ask him. Ok? You can do it!

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    • Nichole2016
      7 years ago

      I asked him about again and he just looked at me and said it fell off then I just asked him did u take it off bec I know ur ring is not big. He just looked down and got mad. I'm definitely rethinking marriage. I believe once u lie in a relationship then ita ganna keep happening.

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      • darksideofmyheart
        7 years ago

        I suggest you give him one more shot. Tell him that if he couldn't have the guts to tell you what actually happened considering that the ring isn't loose, then what more would you expect out of your relationship and that if lying to you is what he prefers than being wed to you. Then so be it. But you better think it through.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Stop overthinking it and talk to him. Your imagination is running wild. Get answers and stop guessing.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Have you met his family before?

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    • Nichole2016
      7 years ago

      I have meet his family before and the parents loved me and the rest of his family.

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        Then I vote for cheater cheater pumpkin eater. Don't be afraid to toss him if he turns out to be a cheater, liar or other variety of screaming asshole, especially if you're young, honey! It's better to be alone than waste your precious youth or any of your life with someone who's a steaming turd of of person.

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        • Nichole2016
          7 years ago

          I'm starting to think hea ashamed of me . I just found out his family his uncle didn't know I was living with him :'(

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  • Ratman2
    7 years ago

    Well let me ask you (and please be honest): Are you a fat ugly pig? If you are then I'd say that explains it all. Mystery solved! Your welcome.

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    • Gurl_Power
      7 years ago

      Did your wife write this? That's the only kind of woman that would be interested in you, a fat and disgusting pig. Go fuck yourself you pussy ass bitch.

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    • Nichole2016
      7 years ago

      I'm not fat or and ugly pig

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  • Boobmaster68
    7 years ago

    Why didn't he take you to dinner with him if you are a couple?

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    I've taken my wedding ring off before, particularly on hot days (because my fingers swell up) or of I'm working on anything electrical, or if I'm scrubbing/sanding something, or gardening, or cooking (particularly bread).

    There are a plethora of reasons why a person would take their wedding ring off, and shame/infidelity is nowhere near the top of the list.

    Perhaps, crazy as this sounds, you should ask your fiancé if you are concerned.

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  • Alpha_AF
    7 years ago

    Asking strangers for advice is a terrible idea. Why don't you just act like an adult and confront the situation? This is something you two need a settle and not random ass people.

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  • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
    7 years ago

    I've taken rings off when driving because they feel weird against the steering wheel. It could be that innocent just ask him!

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  • xfg17
    7 years ago

    Probably ashamed of you. Guys will fuck anything with a pussy.

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