Is he becoming abusive?

Maybe he was only saying that when you first met to test your reaction to it. If you weren't too offended by men who hurt their partners, then he knew you would be right for him?

It does start very slow. Looks like there's a lot of testing and watching your response to see if you'll take it. Abusive relationships usually do start out okay and get worse and worse.

he could be just playing but from my experience the guys who talk so much against anything are the first to do it i know hitting a woman cheating anything

Run don't walk away from him. It will escalate.

playing can become real. i would give him a warning. tell him that you dont like this treatment. if something happens like this again leave him. its hard to say because youve been together for a year. but he is becoming domineering and trying to intimidate you.

I don't like it. It sounds like your BF is a possible abusive jackass. Bottom line, tell him in no uncertain terms if he is doing ANYTHING you don't like. If he doesn't respect your opinion, GET OUT and never look back. You can't imagine how bad it can get for you, your friends and your family.
On a side note, sometimes using a "mirror" approach -- simply suggesting to said clown 'what he would think if you held a lighter up to his skin and told him not to whine about it' illustrates the point nicely. If he's a nice guy he'll realize he's starting to seem like a certified asshole and never do it again. Any other reaction from him is suspect. I wouldn't physically try the lighter trick on him -- if your boyfriend truly is a little violent he might get angry and physically retaliate.

Sounds exactly like the beginning of an abusive relationship I was in.

If you don't like it, talk to him and tell him how you feel and your worrys. If you are feeling something is not right with it then it prolly isn't. Trust yourself. Be safe.

He will eventually hit u or something! The SAME EXACT thing happened to my bffs mom GET OUT!

"Becoming" nothing - he's there - says sexist things, says he control, plays with burning you. Leave. If you want to talk to him about it, tell him why you are leaving & that he needs help.

Try sticking up for yourself and have a long chat with him about his behavior. If he still does it, it's time to dump him and move on.

I think you're feeling uneasy for a reason. I suppose you could say this about every question on this site (or anywhere for that matter) but if you're asking, it means that you know something is wrong here. Go with your gut and get out of there, fast.

Unfortunately, playing can get out of hand real easy and turn in to extreme abuse. Talk to your boyfriend and explain to him that you know he is only joking, but it makes you unconfortable and would like him to stop. If he is a good guy, he will understand and respect the way you feel and stop. If he keeps it up, then he is definitely not the kind of guy you want to be dating.

People can only put up a front for so long. You are finally seeing the real man in the clown suit. Get out now before he hurts you.

well, i cant say i approve of his behavior...but maybe he is just playing or joking. My boyfriend messes with me sometimes like that and if i think hes crossing a line, i tell him aout it and he stops. I think you should just tell him if he scares you or whatever. If hes a keeper...heel stop, if he dosent stop or is insensitive about it...time to let him go

Get rid of him. A friend's ex started out the same way; pretending he was 100% against abuse. Trust me, this is the beginning of something ugly. We went through this with a family member and I was the one arrested for kicking the shit out of him. Ultimately, I wasn't convicted because he didn't press charges. Trust me on this one. You can see it in his eyes if he's evil.

Yes, please don't freak out about this. Some women are just so sensitive (and I am not being sexist, I myself am a woman.) Men like to tease, and be funny, and like it or not, they like to be boss. (Usually) Enjoy the teasing. It could lead to some good fun.

Its always possible to work things out if you are in a domestic violence situation. Im kinda going through one right now, and we've been together for almost 4 years. It usually doesn't stop after he's hit you once, but I wouldn't put too much hope in someone who does...its really up to him to change, and if you are a christian and believe in God He can change anyones heart, but HE or SHE has to be willing to change. To change their attitude and ideas with the other sex.

Btw, teasing is one thing... but playing AS IF he's going to hurt you is another.

You said that he used to hate when men abuse women, but im wondering why did he say that, have you ever spoken about being abused yourself and maybe he's putting up a front.

He's just teasing you.

if he so much as raises an eyebrow in a way you don't like, beat the crap out of him. put him in his place. don't end up like one of those suckers that get into it, but are too scared to get out