Is he becoming a stalker, iin?

Prior to his extreme behavior, I wasn't paranoid. I hadn't had a bout with paranoia in a very long time. Since the more extreme incidences, especially the most recent one, I have become paranoid. I am terrified of looking out of a window and seeing him. I am scared that he will find my address. I fear hearing that creepy voice of his. I fear seeing his face in one of the windows. I fear seeing him when I am outside. This is completely derailing all of my plans to go walking and exploring around the area in which I live. I have be terrified to touch/use the things which he touched when he was bagging my groceries. This asshat is re-ruining my life!

Classic Dobler-Dahmer scenario.

Believe me, I don't follow this belief system. Fuck. I am not even sexually attracted to men. If I took on the role of an outside by-stander, merely judging by looks, I could saw that looks-wise he is all right.

He was all right and looked very different before this started to really progress. It is weird, but I am at a loss for words for what happened to his looks. The first two weeks, I remember him looking youthful and his hair was a regular shade of red. By the third week, I saw him and was astonished at how rough he looked. He looked like he had randomly evolved into another person.

Great suggestion, but I have no plans to ever coming back to that store. God forbid, if I see if him elsewhere, I'll try to ignore him but he is too fucking persistent. If he asks me out, I'll reject him but I'll try to do it in a way that doesn't cause offense. The last thing I want, is for this guy to start flipping out and for me to get on his bad side.

I am by no means confused. Before his taking the testosterone, he didn't creep me out. His flirtations were "normal". After he started taking that stuff, his behavior became concerning and started to scare me. I had been going to that store for a long time. I had my fair share of issue with the people that worked in the store. Before this started to get out of hand, everything was find. I generally keep to myself because I am introverted. By then I was used to those people, there was no longer any need to be shy.

There's something else that I find concerning.

This man, when I first met him, was much shorter than me. In general, if I were looking for a mate, height wouldn't ever be a deal breaker to me.

The last time I saw him, there was a drastic change in height. It was like this guy was too close to my height. My mother's theory was that he was using "pumps" and sticking these inserts into his shoes.

I know that there's an bizarre stigma in some countries against men who are shorter than average. I am not trying to sound mean, but I think that his extreme insecurities are unreasonable and would be a huge turn off for me if were straight. He knew that I was taller than him for the get go. The average bulky shoe would never bring him close to my height, unless he wore combat boots. He thought that I liked him back when he was shorter than me. If that were the case, why would he feel the need to increase in height? Besides, there would be no way to fool me, since I knew his true height. This logic doesn't make any sense.

There's also a flaw in the shoe insert theory. I don't think that the average insert would be able to make the wearer increase that much in height… I am going out on a limb here with my theory as things just aren't adding up… Please keep in mind that after the 3rd week of coming in contact with him, that he didn't show up for about 4 weeks. 4 weeks is a month. The 5th week I see him and he is too close to my height. I doubt highly that this is the result of a natural growth spurt. If it were a natural growth spurt, there would be no reasoning for him to miss work, would there? I believe that this guy got limb lengthening surgery. This would explain why he was gone for such a period of time.

(I did do some research on this in the past as I was considering taking this approach myself. That is until I realized that growth doesn't end until a person is in there 20's and that there are natural ways to incase in height. ) - I can't remember how much on average, it usually takes to get a procedure like this to heal.

If this is truly the case, it puts the situation into an even darker light. This guy doesn't know me. I am as much of a fucking stranger as he is to me, granted that he those know a small amount of information than me. Still, it is more than I know about him.

Anyway, why would a sane person undergo limb lengthening surgery for someone they don't even know? For a relationship that may never come to fruition? May never last? This surgery is apparently extremely painful and there are some health risks, like the bones becoming weaker than what they were prior to surgery. Why would any of this be worth it? I don't think that this person is sane. I think that he is mentally ill, hence the dark grey aura I saw. Does he believe the he loves me and I love him too? Can he not understand the difference between infatuation and love? I know that people sometimes blur the two together but seriously… What the fuck?!

If a woman whom was a stranger to you, did something like this, what would you think?

I do think that he likes me. If he is sensing my fear but still being persistent since my fear turns him on, wouldn't that be a behavior of concern? Trust me, I am all for sexual sadism when it is in a consensual relationship. However, these two factors have not come to fruition. That guy would be breaking on of the most important tenants in the BDSM community.

He might have Asperger's but, I don't know. The possibility that I might have this condition has been brought up to me a few times. I'll admit that there have been about three times when, as a minor, I had inadvertently scared people that I had feelings for. Two were online. However, in these cases, I was experiencing mental health issues (paranoia and delusions). With the first one, I had a crush on a female, whom I think may have been a peer. I didn't know how to handle my sexuality/feelings properly. Unfortunately, these unexpressed feelings caused me to constantly stare at this person. She and others kept bringing up the concern as to why I kept staring at her. Of course, I was too frightened to be 100% honest so, I would just say that I didn't know. I don't think that it even occurred to me how uncomfortable that I could have been making this person feel.

I keep trying to talk to her about this but, it is like she doesn't take me seriously. She doesn't understand why I am not attracted to him and why I am creeped out by him. I tried telling her the first time I got sick, that it was from the stress of having to go to that store. She quickly shot me down. Even with my mother, I feel as though she is not taking this as seriously as needs to be taken. She told that I better not fall in love with someone else in the store that works there because if he finds out, he might get made and hurt that person. I don't get why he should even legally be allowed to get that far.

Women need to be more aware of their environments. I have no means of protecting myself and this guy is doing testosterone therapy, which can have some very bad side effects. You honestly think that I want to be terrorized and made psychically ill, by someone who could become aggressive and have mood swings at any moment?

I dont think telling the manager is right because it could get the guy fired and i dont see what he is doing wrong exactly.
I guess i can relate because ive been accused of being creepy a lot even though im actually very friendly. I just have little understanding of social rules and come off as awkward. Ive been told i look like im up to something when im not too. I wouldnt recognize these things if they werent pointed out to me often. Not everyone whos weird is dangerous.

There's nothing that I could carry that stuff in because, I don't wear a purse. I have been concerned about potentially getting into trouble if I tried any defensive measures against this guy with weapons. I have thought about hitting the gym and learning a type of marital arts. I am putting myself at a serious disadvantage by being untrained and having such small muscle mass. The increase in muscle mass might make me look intimidating. If I ever get into a situation that requires self-defense, the marital art should come into place.

I sadly don't have any male friends. I had one, that is a gay man. He looks muscly. The thing is is that I lost contact with him, for whatever reason… If possible, I could've gotten him to have pretended to be my boyfriend. I think that it could have been rather convincing, at least on my part if not his…

I have a uncle who is a veteran. He learned self-defense in the military. The main issue is that he doesn't live in the same state as me. I don't think that it would be fair to him to have to have him constantly go out of his way just to come protect me. Besides, all of my life, I have been way too dependent on others.

I had been advised by someone to go to the store management if he was persistent. Like wise, this person also advised to politely yet firmly, say "no. Thank you" to him if he ever asked things of me that I wasn't comfortable with. i.e (phone number, out on a date, etc)

A relative of mine in panic told me not to go to management. That it is his word against mine since there is an seemingly perceived difference in race.

Thank you.

The situation is over. I'll admit that I did get paranoid after I stopped going to the store. You have to understand that I was terrified. I had an attempted stalker once before and his behaviors were sending alarm bells in my head. His methods to ascertain my personal information were very similar to the person before him. He scared me in a similar way as the person before did. However, the person before actually did abuse and threaten me. Just like before, no one believed me when I tried to voice my concerns.

No.

No, never.