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I really REALLY hate my stepfather. He is a low-life selfish scumbag who is a waste of a life, and even though he doesn't give me problems anymore and I haven't seen him in 5 years, I still have alot of hate for him.
I know having this hate is just pointless but for some reason I find it hard to let go of. Is having prolonged hate for someone a sign of immaturity?
| It is a sign of immaturity. | 18 | |
| It's not a sign of immaturity. | 66 |
I wouldn't call it a sign of immaturity, but simply an act of being normal. You know, some people bring it on themselves for people to hate them and your stepfather is probably one of them.
it depends.... how much energy do you really want to give him?
in a way holding on to extreme hatred is just another way ... to let those you hate take control of your emotions and life.
If he's not still constantly pissing you off, then yeah forget about him and move on.
I don't think its immature and i think any negativity towards yourself is a shame. As your step father he should have made an effort with you and whatever he did to generate that amount of hate from you is more than likely more about him than you. As others have said its what you do with that hate that could be immature. The best thing for you would be to waste no more energy on him and find closure, by talking or counselling. I don't think its healthy for anyone to carry hate around.
It is very normal to have grudges on people who interfere with family, such as a mean step dad can interfere with how someone gets along with their mom. The trick is to live your own life and let mom and him live theirs. Most people are "immature" in this case, I would be, letting go is much easier said than done.
if u are suffering too much wait for nice weather and lay under the stars, think and think and ask the moon and the stars to release you from the curse of anger, he is small and meaningless to you, u may have to do it continusouly for many nights but i think it will work, gl
Sometimes you literally cannot control your hatred for someone, especially if they have done something bad to you in the past.. It's not immature at all, sometimes its just impossible to forgive and forget xoxoxo
I agree with SoccerStud. I doubt your stepfather was born to be a scumbag, or aspired to be one when he was a child. You are away from him now, but he still has some control of you emotionally. I do not think you are immature for hating him, but find a way too come to peace with everything that has happened and move on.