Is grieving for so long normal?

This is a real bummer folks. Just let me get this out. Need to vent. Over the past 12 years I lost two younger sisters. They were not just my sisters, you see. I can honestly say that these two wonderful women were my two best friends. They saw me through a divorce, a child custody issue, drug addiction,loneliness. All the while dealing with thier own problems, and raising children. I'm a 62 year old man. A grandfather. Yet there are times when I break out in these hour long crying fits when I think of my sisters dying. It's been 8 years since the last sister died. Thier birthdays, and Christmas, and Mother's day have become a nightmare to me. I am in therapy (just started) and hoping this will be the answer. But is grieving for so long normal? I am re-married, have wonderful children and grandchildren. I am newly retired but have found fulfillment doing volunteer work. It's just this profound grief that comes upon me suddenly and really kicks my ass. Writing this has helped. I feel better for now. Thanks for listening, whoever you are. Thanks.

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  • plush1943

    I have lost 3 sisters and two wives and other close relatives and friends and pets. I know death is a per se fact of life but I still grieve almost daily especially over my last wife and several pets.

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  • college

    I lost my sibling about 1 1/2 years ago, and there are still moments when it feels like it'd happened just the day before. That pain never goes away and joyful moments lose some of their rapture because you know someone isn't there to share the moment with you.

    However, if you feel that your grieving is seriously hindering your ability to move forward in life, I encourage you to research the term "Complicated Grief", and see it resonates with you.

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  • mouznahh

    You love them and you miss them, grieve for as long as you need to.

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