Is ghosting a form of emotional abuse?

So how many of you would consider ghosting a form of emotional abuse in a relationship?

Lets say two people are together but the other stops answering texts and calls for weeks maybe months. They do this regularly, this distresses their partner and they know it hurts them. It's back to back and frequent enough to keep the other person in a constant state of fear of losing the other person and leaves them very insecure and dependent on the other person, and causes them anxiety and extreme depression. Lets say the last and final time they did this they left that person for someone they had been cheating with and didn't explain or apologize or breakup with them, they just *poof* and acted as if they never meant anything to them. Poof, poof, poof, poof, poof!

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  • mysistersshadow

    Its a sign your suppose to break up.

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    • Almosttoolesbiantofunction

      *you're

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      • mysistersshadow

        Oh look a grammar nazi. LOL.

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  • Azaman

    I never thought about it really, but I would agree that it is. Fucking people.

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  • Cocomilktitties

    I think it can be. If they are doing it with the purpose of hurting you, or with the purpose of using you, then yes I think it is "abuse". I mean not really abuse, but it's not nice and it might be a form of taking advantage of someone.

    BUT... if they are doing it because maybe something that you are doing is annoying them or maybe they feel afraid to leave the relationship for fear of how you might react or something of that nature, then it might be a different story.

    I think in most cases, where it is like someone just losing interest, that kind of says that the relationship is over. For your sanity, in a situation like that, I think you just have to not accept it and essentially end the relationship. Whether it be temporary or permanent.

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  • ........

    Yes ghosting or jacking someones head off is
    form of emotional abuse but I've learn I'm not
    going to be giving in to people hell i been through
    enough abuse in life.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I think what it comes down to is that the person who's doing the ghosting is unable to confront the other person for whatever reason, and the person being ghosted basically can't take a hint. I think it's important for a person to have a good idea of what he or she was willing to put up with. It's not acceptable to me for someone to just disappear and reappear at intervals. So when someone does that I assume the person is playing with my head and not worth my time.

    If someone is ghosting you you have to take the initiative, tell yourself you deserve better and move on with your life. Desperation and fear of abandonment are your enemies!

    If you're desperate to keep someone then surely you will lose them.

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    • So true, being in a state where you feel neglected and being manipulated by someone to where you feel dependent of them isn't a way to live.

      The ghoster enjoys the attention they receive from their victim, it serves as an ego boost and they don't want their victim to be with other people but they also don't want to be with them.

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  • FORUMiadableFucker0

    The worst kind, maybe.

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  • _Jesus_

    Who you gonna call?

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    • RoseIsabella

      Ghostbusters!

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  • ........

    I think you need to see the signs more clear
    of someone your with, watch their actions why
    would you put yourself through hell of wondering
    if they don't want text, call you than do something
    productive, go out for a walk, go to the mall look
    around in the stores, go catch a movie, invite someone
    if they want go, if not than go yourself why would you
    sweat it out about ones actions i think you need to
    know there are times in life that we just need to move
    on hell I'm not waiting all day for a chick to text me
    back if she doesn't want to than that's on her.

    I knew a girl who did all kinds of things for attention
    cause she wasn't getting it from her parents i met her
    on this one site we exchange emails and she was always
    texting me with being like in distress and seemed depress
    she even faked pregnancy and she even sent me a picture
    of her brothers girlfriends baby, she was posing that
    baby to be her own and it wasn't she was jacking me off
    so i finally threw the towel in what do people get out
    of using others or doing things to make us jealous?

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    • This is hypothetical. The person is using "ghosting" as a way to have the upper hand in the relationship and manipulate the other person. They are well aware how it hurts and affects their partner.

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      • ........

        Yeah i do agree with you :-)

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