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Do you consider it cheating if your partner has sex-related talks online? No exchanging photos or video, just online fantasy roleplay. I'd love to hear your thoughts below...It is something I'm torn about.
| Yes | 74 | |
| No | 45 | |
| Depends on the situation | 38 |
Yes, it's cheating. Even if your partner never finds out it's still cheating, and it will still adversely affect your relationship.
How do you think it would adversely affect the relationship if they never know about it?
Women are brainwashed to think they need to control every aspect of men. Any human being has the 'RIGHT' to attain sexual gratification whenever they see fit. Nobody as the 'RIGHT' to tell anyone they must endure or do without sexual gratification. This being said, the term 'cheating' is all BS....as an Adult I can do what ever I want, when ever I want.
And men are brainwashed to think all women think the same way! I am a woman, and I made this poll because I am the one in my relationship wanting to chat online. But I don't know if it would bother my husband if he knew. To me, it's harmless to have sexy talk with a stranger behind a screen if I'm not exchanging photos or videos. Ultimately I probably will just try to spice things up in other ways, but it was interesting to see everyone's perspective on this topic (and their assumptions).
Im a dude and I disagree with this Mary guy.
You cant just go around cheating. He wants freedom, but you gotta understand you cant just do whatever you want in a relationship lol
You cant just cheat. If you want freedom dont have a relationship.
You can chat and do anything you want online or offline. You don't need to tell your hubby if it won't add to the relationship. But you have to accept he can do the same.
I mean Im sure you wanna feel okay about this, and Im sure you feel sorry for doing it.
But honestly I have no idea what would happen if you told him. He could forgive you though.
If you just talking about sex topics yea, I also dont find that a problem.
But if you have a sexual roleplay with a random guy, then its cheating.
I would, yes. Because it is engaging with someone. Porn is fine because there is no mutual connection.
Wow, that sounded really bad :/ fuck it.
i would love to engage in some descriptive cyber sex.. shit, bring back the written foreplay where written words have power
It's giving a real-life third person a sexual role in the relationship. That's not cool at all, unless it's been agreed on.
Would it be different if they were sexy-talkin' face to face? If the person cared for their partner at all, they would be wise to consider it pretty much the same thing, imo.
I agree that porn is fine. But roleplay with the opposite sex to me is cheating
It's not real. When cyber pregnancy and cyber STDs become an issue then it's real. Cyber sex is custom made porn. If you have a stronger sexual connection with a stranger online that a real life partner that's the real problem right there.
it technically IS real. it is cheating. just like skype sex is also cheating.
telephone sex is cheating.
if your willing to contact a person of the opposite sex and give yourself up to that person, when you already have a lover, then thats cheating
if you have to go out and have telephone sex or skype sex with somebody else it should prove that you dont love them that much
you're not loyal to them
thinking about another person is technically cheating
it is at a LOW level of cheating, but like i said, if you really want to be with the person your with, why would you think of someone else?
Low level cheating? Surely you either cheat or you don't? What's with the levels?
Thinking about another person is not technically cheating. Since when was thinking a crime?
if you had a girlfriend, would you want her to think about different guys when she masturbates?
yes its cheating, but its LOW level cheating
cheating exist with different levels.
okay for example, would you consider cheating with 1 guy or 100 guys the same thing?
sexually masturbating thinking about another person is cheating, but like i said, low level
But still you shouldnt want anybody else than your lover if you truely love them.
haha actually the opposite
it has EVERYTHING to do with sex
if your willing to go out and bang 5 dudes, and you already got a boyfriend, it proves your not loyal, and your lover's feelings mean nothing to you
its complete disrespect
Hmm, I think if you're keeping it a secret from your partner, it is cheating because you are getting off with anther person. Maybe you could do it together as a couple if you are bored.
So long as the partner is aware and it's not "behind the back" so to speak, it's not cheating.
If the partner isn't aware... Well that's when it gets debatable. Why hide it unless it's something you can't face your partner about?
I have to agree here. I think it's super sexy to think of my SO with someone else, throw in some amazing role play action in there and you have a recipe for some excitement.
Of course...should probably note that if it was cyber or real life sex I'm in the same place on both...
Yes. It's cheating.
Of course, every couple is responsible for setting their own boundaries and terms, but by that logic, a full-on gangbang might not be cheating.
Anything you do with another person for the purpose of sexual gratification is cheating unless stated otherwise.
I think its a little iffy kinda depends on circumstances. On the mild end its kinda like watching porn so if your ok with that then no big deal. On the other end I'd say yea it is cheating especially if you get emotional connections or camming. It also depends on the dynamics of the relationship. Since I'm usually in open relationships I don't get mad unless they are keeping it a secret that IMO is a bad indicator that its cheating.
Hope yoy get it figured out and good luck.