Is cheating, cheating, or are there exceptions?

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Does it really matter people? Guys: If your gal hooks up with another girl does it mean that she cheated on you? Gals: If your guy hooks up with another guy does it mean that he cheated on you? Regardless of herpes, THE HIV, and all the other seriously unpleasant nasty risks of hooking up does it matter if your partner cheats on you with another of his or her gender or do you "point shave" the indescretion (pardon me if I mispell folks)for the sake of allowing your partner an opportunity to "explore" same sex endeavors while they claim to be in a relationship with you?

People need to figure this shit out before they enter a relationship! 34
Men "exploring" with men is different than when women do it. 8
Sex sometimes is just about getting off so no hard feelings. 10
Consetual 3-ways don't count as cheating...technically 8
Women "exploring" with women IS NOT cheating 9
Intimate contact is cheating regardless of gender. 59
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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    Other:

    You and your partner need to decide what you consider cheating to be and agree on it together.

    If you want to do something your partner considers cheating... then it's time to decide.... what do you love more? Your partner or your own self-gratification?

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    • Ihadtomakeyetanotheraccountffs
      12 years ago

      I agree, it's all up the people in the relationship. These things should be discussed before anything gets out of hand.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        12 years ago

        Yep.

        For me: cheating is any sexual or romantic contact with someone else other than my partner.

        it includes cyber sex, phone sex, romantic kissing etc.

        if what i'm doing with someone else is going to make me feel turned on... then it's not something i need to be doing.

        on the other hand, watching porn or reading explicit material is not cheating.

        self-pleasure is also not cheating. as long as you're not pleasuring yourself with with someone who isn't your partner. - i.e. touching oneself to a porn video is not cheating, but doing so while having cybersex with someone else IS cheating.

        It's not just the actions but the intent behind them.

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        • sleepingbeauty
          12 years ago

          Totally agree!

          I have always been and always will be monogamous, I have absolutely no interest in going outside the relationship. I also agree with your point about porn, it doesn't count in my opinion unless it interferes with your relationship rather than enhancing it of course. I rarely even flirt with other men never mind doing more, and will usually cut any guy off if I think he is even going to start flirting. No exceptions!

          When I'm single, that is another matter though ;)

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        • [Old Memory]
          12 years ago

          Well said. I won't bother saying the same thing in different words, but I'll add, if she ever cheated on me (the things you mentioned), she's out of my life because I can't forgive this shit.

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    • casualcrow
      12 years ago

      "People need to figure this shit out before they enter a relationship."

      That's what you should've picked.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        12 years ago

        Not entirely, because they need to work it out with their partner too, and some things can change once you start a relationship.

        For example a couple might decide to try a threesome and get themselves a V. Or they might decide to become swingers.

        If both are agreeing and happy with the situation then it's not really cheating.

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        • casualcrow
          12 years ago

          Yea thats what I meant. "People" means you and your partner, so picking that answer would have basically summed up everything you just said.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      I think you nailed it on the head.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    in an open relationship its not cheating

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  • Aleks85
    12 years ago

    Cheating is in fact cheating. Sad a lot of people can't grasp that and many of the ones who can still do it?

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  • seeking
    12 years ago

    Cheating is cheating, it doesn't matter with who. Why bother to be in a relationship if you are going to cheat, then just stay single, no strings attached. And to those who cheat while being married, why not get it out of your system before you decide to settle down? You hurt people.

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  • Kerry69
    10 years ago

    One & Five or A&E

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  • BlueAlice
    11 years ago

    There is no such thing as cheating, I don't think... the concept only exists because this vanilla society has been bullied into thinking that being shackled to one person for the rest of your life (No matter how bad the sex is or how little you two care about each other) is a good thing.

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  • nAt2017
    11 years ago

    Cheating is cheating, but there are many different reasons.

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  • Monster93
    12 years ago

    Oh boy this is a difficult question. I really like this girl and she likes me so hopefully we'll get together. Like if we were together and she got with a Guy or Girl its cheating and a deal breaker Except theres 1 Exception. I know shes Really close with one of her friends and they do stuff even though they arnt dating and im good friends with both of them so if i was with my girl and they got together i wouldnt really call that cheating (anyone else though yeah id consider it cheating) but she prob wouldnt do it behind my back since we all are good friends, she'd let me know and hell honestly she'd prob even invite me in lol. So i guess technically there are exceptions, it just depends on how you look at it

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  • BrunetteBeauty93
    12 years ago

    Cheating is cheating. Emotional or physical - the damage is still the same. I would never forgive a cheater. If they really love me they wouldn't cheat in the first place because they'd be happy with me.

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  • XxKatiexX
    12 years ago

    Open relationships...

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  • kayla8
    12 years ago

    just cuz its same sex doesnt mean its not cheating, unless u have an open relationship n its agreed upon.... when i was with my bf i wud always hook up with girls n he never cared cuz he just thought it was just wat girls do messing around, but he never knew i was actually bi n obvs really enjoyed being able to hook up with girls... that relationship didnt last....

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  • iamdick100
    12 years ago

    You need to know what the you and your partner/spouse can do with others. Can a guy look at another woman or can a wife get petted in front of her husband? Or is open sex with others OK for both of you? If you stay within the boundries, it is not cheating.

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