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We have all been there. Where we have been so drunk that we don't even know what we are doing anymore.
So do you think if you was in a relationship, you went out, got very very drunk and then woke up with someone other than your significant other then being drunk the night before is a valid excuse? Providing it was the first and last time it happened.
| Yes | 13 | |
| No | 83 | |
| I don't know | 13 |
I would have a zero tolerance approach to cheating. No excuses. If you choose to go out and get drunk and you are fully aware you might be so drunk you'd sleep with someone else, you shouldn't be going out and getting drunk somewhere where that might happen. Maybe it is a valid excuse, but it wouldn't stop me from breaking it off instantly from that person. I've never had to face that situation though.
Actually, no, I haven't been there. I have never gotten to the point that I was too drunk to know what I was doing because I'm the one who gets to control how much I drink. No one's bending my elbow for me.
It's no excuse. You had the choice a few drinks ago to say, "You know, I should probably slow down." You had the choice to tell the other person you were with someone while you were still sober enough to remember that fact. You had the choice to leave the party early or have a friend keep an eye on you or go with your boyfriend/girlfriend -- in short, there are a lot of steps along the path that led to cheating, and you could have stopped at just about any of them.
Don't try to excuse it. Own up to it, apologize abjectly and profusely, and don't try to blame one bad choice (cheating) on your other bad choice (drinking too much). It might not save the relationship, but it's the best chance you have.
This all applies only if you aren't blacked out or otherwise unable to give consent. If someone did things to you while you were unconscious, you weren't cheating; you were assaulted.
I did it once. Invalid excuse. Being drunk is only part of the equation. Let me ask you this: do you think being drunk is a valid excuse for vehicular homicide?
That is why you bring a designated driver. Often when you are drunk you are probobly not smart enough to listen to reason.
I think taking away someone's life is on a completely different level than cheating.
You could have put down the bottle and you didn't. You could have made sure you were not in that situation and you did anyways. Also not everyone cheats when they are drunk. Some people behave them selves no matter how drunk they are. While yes it would happen if you got drunk it is not an excuse. However if someone gets you drunk to take advantage of you knowing you wont be able to keep them off that is their bad not yours.
Dude, I've been smashed off my face before, chundering all over the fucking place, but you never lose complete sense. At least I don't. People just use it as an excuse to get away with cheating. Fuck those cunts.
If there had been prior relationship problems, plus they were exceptionally drunk (not thinking clearly), and their regret was sincere; then I might consider it a valid excuse. It would also depend on how much time and emotional value has been invested into a relationship. Sometimes, it's better to cut your losses and, other times, it's better to stay and work it out.
But, in saying that it can be a valid excuse, under certain circumstances, doesn't mean that the bad deed is automatically forgiven and everything is cool, because it--sure as fuck--would not be!