Is being a jerk to my ex vindicated if she still hasnt left me alone?

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its been 2 years since the "we both know this relationship wont work" breakup

Ans she has contacred me ever since. I ignored her at first. Didnt work. Then tried being polite and kind in requesting her to back off. Even tried being clingy and obsessive once hoping she would run away. Didnt work

Shes been married for a year now.

She's made it clear she has no interest in getting back together but still texts me like... <insert her loving name for me> have u ever burst out laughing in public thinking about the time you and I blah blah blah and people started looking at you all weird? And she has so many times said how much she misses 'verbal sparring' with me. whatever that means

When we dated she would keep in touch with her exes even though one of them hated her and never replied. I thought it was weird but then thought maybe shes nice like that and has no bad blood. I know. Im dumb

But is this super weird behavior or normal? I want to be a douchebag and hurtful to her so she can realize im a person she would never want to be in touch with. opinions?

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    If you've told her you don't want to be in contact with her but she refuses to back off, she's being the jerk. She needs to learn that she's not entitled to your time.

    Don't try any more mind games, though. Pretending to be needy so she backs off is some serious passive-aggressive shit, and pretending to be mean so she doesn't like you anymore is no better. If you want people to get the message, you need to stick to your honest intentions instead of changing your story all the time. She isn't going to learn that she isn't entitled to your time if you keep tiptoeing around the issue and avoid taking direct action.

    Can I assume you've done all the basic stuff like blocking her on social media, changing your phone number etc.? Cutting off channels of communication should be your first step if you don't want to talk to someone.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    Have you officially told her that you do not want to keep in touch and that she needs to knock it off?

    I don't think it's normal for a married woman to act like that. Can you block her number like thegypsysailer suggested? If not, ignore her texts/calls. If that doesn't work, change your number.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yup. I told her I had no interest in keeping in touch in plain and clear words. Her response was stubborn and she said I need to get over myself.

      I am not the kind to change a phone number but I realize from what everyone says that I need to stop being a baby getting annoyed by her and man up and ignore the texts forever. Thank you to everyone for your replies.

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      • Parky_Parker
        9 years ago

        Oh jeez. She said you need to get over yourself even though you've been broken up for 2 years and she's married now? This girl sounds very deluded. Just be happy that you're not the one married to her.

        We're not all crazy, I promise. Best of luck.

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  • gashlover
    9 years ago

    tell her that you will tell her husband that he got your sloppy seconds if she doesn't leave you alone.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    She sounds crazy. I feel for you cause I have an ex wife that keeps calling and texting even though Ive been ignoring the fuck outta her.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Can't you just block her #, like you do emails? If not why do you even read them.
    Otherwise, I'd threaten to tell her husband that you 2 are still sleeping together. That should get her to stop. If not call him and tell him to control his wife, or you'll get the LEO's involved; stalking or whatever.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      well she did say her husband knew about her contacting me and said he 'didn't care about that crap'

      i downloaded an app to block her number. thanks man

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  • Tommythecat.
    9 years ago

    Tell her she's a fatty fat.

    Then masturbate ur self off.

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