Is beauty everything?

That's how life is.

I thought so too, welcome to reality, the world is shallow.

Totally normal.
I must admit, guys whom think like that are not worth anyone. At the end of the day it should be personality that matter. I mean, is that not where love comes from. I think personality is a major part of happiness. Guys will one day learn that a really "hot" girl could be the most stupid or arrogant/mean person alive.

no it is not!

well truthfully right now i only go out with guys because of the way they look. im stupid thats why im ending up with the cute ass holes, thats dump me @ the end.

wel.. i have dated many guys, and to my experiences, yes , many guys will judge on how you can fill a bra, or how well u do ur hair,, but then again if u are confident in urself and u have accepted tht u arent perfect and u become confident in urself, then they will also see that side of you too.. hopefully :)

but most guys are prickss.. ask any girl

Men are visual. We are instinctively driven to be attracted to women who are young, have smooth skin, narrow waist, developed breasts, long hair, etc., etc. These instincts are automatic--they don't involve conscious thought.

As a result, attractive women have a huge advantage over those who are ugly, particularly in the dating world, but also in business and social situations. One of the easiest places to observe this is at a dance. Those women who are attractive will be constantly asked to dance, while those who are ugly will end up sitting out most of the dances.

Does that mean men only care about beauty? Of course not. Take, for example, a woman who is very attractive, but is bitchy, psychotic, a chain smoker, and frequently drunk. A typical man might want to sleep with her, but he's not going to want to have a relationship with her. Nor will he hire her for a job.

The inside does matter, but if you're ugly, you're at a definite disadvantage. Fewer men are going to want to sleep with you; and without that desire, there's not much of a basis for a relationship. There may still be a basis for friendship. Although a really ugly woman may appear "disgusting" at first, eventually men will get used to her appearance, and they will become comfortable with her. If she has lots of other positive qualities, then she can easily become a good friend. If she becomes a highly skilled writer, researcher, or scientist, then people are going to like her no matter how ugly she is.

So, I agree with a lot of what you say, but I wouldn't give up hope. Firstly, there are likely many ways in which you can improve your appearance. If you are overweight, you can go on a *low-carbohydrate* diet. You can improve your hairstyle and makeup. Clothing goes a long way, especially in business situations. Confidence helps, but it doesn't have the same kind of effect on men as it does on women. Otherwise, use your personality and ability to your advantage. A lot of attractive women lack both.

Guys like pretty girls but they prefer sluts, so just ho yourself up and you will get a man really quickly.

Simple answer: Yes.

I think it can go both ways. If guys see someone they think is really attractive, they might think she is out of thier league and not even try or they try, but only want a physical relationship and not an emotional one.I think you just haven't met the right guy for you yet.

By the way, studies show that men prefer to marry a woman that is less attractive than them, on the short side and with brown hair, but they prefer to date a woman that is more attractive than them, tall and has blond hair - isn't that weird?

You are partly right - it can be over rated & unfair - but beauty can be appreciated. But you are wrong to be so harsh towards yourself. If you take basic care of yourself why would you assume guys find you disgusting?

Confidence has been mentioned repeatedly - and it shines through no matter what a person's body type etc.. Besides there are as many guys who are far from the beauty stereotypes and myths as women. Probably more.

Maybe you are being to harsh with guys as well as yourself.

Yeah, you just need more confidence.

If you have a wild out there unique personality then you appear more beautiful on the outside because instead of being categoriesed, you are known as just YOU and therefore you are beautyfull.

It is hard to start when you feel that way but little steps work. Mayb start by writing a good and bad factor about you everyday, and look over these factoRS. Try and work more on the good factors and try to turn the bad factors positive.

It takes work and determination but once you know yourself, then noone can tell you any different

its normal to think that way, but you also have to think how shallow the people around you are. But, hormones are hormones. It's like watching your boyfriend almost trip over himself after he sees Serena Williams' ass on the big screen. Just deal with it - and have confidence. Confidence and beauty go hand in hand (in my book anyway).