Is bdsm and kinky sex immoral even with consent?

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If two sexual partners engage in kinky actions including intentional degrading, dehumanizing and objectifying practices with ALL PARTIES CONSENTING, is that still immoral in your opinion?

So say I tie my gf up and put a ball gag in her mouth to watch her drool uncontrollably while I pinch her tits and spank her ass. If she agrees to all of this beforehand and has a safe word/signal to stop it at any point and doesn't signal, is what we did morally wrong?

Its totally fine if she consents with some exceptions(clarify!) 9
Its fine no matter what it is 6
Yes its horribly wrong 3
Questionable but not a huge deal 2
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  • TheShyGirlFromWork
    4 years ago

    Morality has nothing to do with BDSM.

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      A lot of people on here would disagree with that. I however, disagree with you.

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  • message-man
    4 years ago

    Breath play is very dangerous but as a sub I love the stuff

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  • Lestat565
    4 years ago

    If it’s done with consent and follows the ssc rule it’s not immoral. When I was a dom there are some things I wouldn’t do. Like doing anything with water or knives

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Thanks for the reply man I agree on your stance. But how TF do you not want to do anything with water? Are enemas scarier than shit, piss, blood ect?

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      • Lestat565
        4 years ago

        Some will tie a sub up and submerge them in a tub of water or a pool. It’s something I will never do. It’s too dangerous for the sub. Enemas are not that bad it’s not something I enjoy but it’s fine. I won’t do anything with shit or piss or blood.

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        • Doesnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Oh yeah submerging in water, I'll pass on that! Any breath play typa shit is a no go for me.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    How can a person say the safe word with a stupid gag in their mouth?

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    • Lestat565
      4 years ago

      Not everyone uses gags in bdsm but I understand your point. When gags are used a verbal safe word isn’t used but there are other ways of letting the dom know they are ok. Blinking is a common alternative when words are not possible.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Thanks for the clarification.

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        • Lestat565
          4 years ago

          Your welcome

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Hand signals work but eye movements or blinking is best. Wouldn't recommend doing bondage plus gags on your first few times. People should get comfortable with their partner and their limits first.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    I say no. If it is safe and legal, and you get consent. Do whatever gets you off. It's not unfair or taking advantage of anyone else.

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