Is a relationship this unhealthy normal

18% Normal
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i have been seeing a girl for 3 years now about a year and a half ago i got blackout drunk and had sex with some chick and told her the next day what happened she was upset but didn't want to break up now we are engaged and not to long ago she caught me looking for casual sex on craigslist. she is upset but still wants to get married. now i don't mean to be bad though i am a sex addict i work hard to not look at other women and avoid temptation but this can not be a healthy relationship she will probably be suspicious of me forever and she will dangle this over my head forever i still love her but i think under the circumstances we have too much bad air already in the relationship to make it work. is this normal

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18% Normal
Based on 87 votes (16 yes)
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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Alright dude.
    I'm not going to sit here and pass judgement on you, but take my advice.

    Leave her. She obviously does not have her head in the right place and you should not have gotten into a relationship with her to begin with. If you are a sex addict and you can not control your urges then you have no need to BE in a committed relationship. You will only end up hurting both you and herself and if you care about her at all then you will do what is best for everyone and leave her.

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    • Thewomanizer
      11 years ago

      agreed.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    If this is the kind of addiction that is dominating your thoughts and controlling your life, I would suggest getting help.

    If you honestly just have such powerful urges for multiple partners, perhaps you should consider an open or polyamorous relationship with someone who would be into that kind of thing.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I think you already know the answer to your question.

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  • MommaUsagi
    11 years ago

    There is no such thing as a sex addiction. It is cheating, plain and simple. If you truly love her, then you would put your "temptations" in check to be with her. Do her a favor, and break it off. She is too good for you.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    You're f***in lucky to have a girl that's going to forgive you so many times. Sounds like the perfect match to me, aside form her, your not going to find alot of chicks who are going to put up with your cheating a**. I say keep her unless she's miserable lol If she is, I'd do her a favour and set her free..

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    Forgive me but I am trying to think like an idiotic female ....

    Perhaps she has dreams of walking down the aisle in white and won't let you spoil that 'big day' by breaking off the engagement. She probably figures that she'll deal with you AFTER her day!! Boy, will you be in for it!!

    However, you are right - the marriage will not work but at least she will have her wedding to look back on and perhaps half of all you own to console her ;o)

    Leave this idiot at once. No-one loves a walkover!

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    You have two choices, get control of your sex addiction, or seek help. Your relationship will fail if you keep on the same path you have been walking.

    I used to think that "sex addiction" as a bogus excuse for horny guys, but I also thought that "anxeity disorder" was bogus too untill I got it! I wont judge you because I recently have had to face alot of realities about disorders myself. If you don't either gain control of it, or seek help in doing so, you will never have a working relationship. Just my thoughts

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  • NerdyChickFTW
    11 years ago

    This relationship.. I can already say.. Will NOT work. I can't imagine a relationship where one does not trust the other. I think she just loves you too much to attempt life without you. I feel strongly for my boyfriend, but honestly, if he cheated on me, that would be the end. However, some couples, such as my brother and his girlfriend, have agreed to an "open" relationship, in which they can become sexually active with others if they desire. Personally, I think a relationship like this would be too much to handle. I'm not good with jealousy. Maybe you just need to break it off, go out, and have sex with as many girls as possible until you are just plain tired of it.

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