Is a relationship between a 18y/o male and 15y/o female normal?

I'm 24 now. When I was 18 I had a relationship with a girl who was 15 years old. We were completely in love and never had sex, though we were 'intimate' with each other. Her mother found out and made me out to be a pervert - which has scarred me a lot. She told me that I would never be good enough for her. Being with her was the happiest time of my life, she was my first love and perfect in every way. We are still in contact but I can't see how we could ever be together or openly visit each other.

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Comments ( 21 )
  • paradoxinsoxs

    I don't think you were in the wrong amigo.

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  • koifish

    Her mom must be very protective obviously. Find a way to still be with her!

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  • JazzyJim

    Three years age difference is nothing. That is a senior going out with a freshman in high school. As a senior in high school I had a freshman girlfriend and so did a couple of my friends. No one said it was abnormal and her parents thought I was a cool guy. We also had sex whenever possible. Very normal.

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  • aussiewolf

    theres nothing wrong or illegal with that situation because as you stated, you were not having sex. but what i do find strange is that you are still thinking about it 6 years later. maybe you should try to get over this and find another girl to be with. or if you cant do that then track this girl down and see if you can start a relationship again with her. if things dont work, you really need to let go.

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  • AmberBlueCoral

    Yeh, her mother threatened to 'take legal action'. I guess it was her mother's issues that got in the way as much as anything. It's messed with my head for a long time... Suppose it just sounds like another trivial IIN question but when you're being accused of stuff it takes it's toll. Thanks for your comments guys! I need to put this demon to rest!

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  • blndgrl18

    normal. it wouldnt be a big deal if you were thirty and she was twenty seven...so whats the deal here? legality?

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    • Listen

      From your perspective a 12 year old would be fine with a 9 year old.

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      • BoredGuy

        and is not? lol

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  • Adam_6996

    its normal...go for it

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  • aussiewolf

    so are you just roping me into an argument to try to make a point because i am not the only one on this post who doesnt see what the big deal is? alright yes legally an 18 year old is considered an adult but mentally they are still a kid. if a 40 year old touched a minor then of course i would be against it but they were just "kids". if you want me to say you are right and we should all live by your way of thinking then so be it, you are right and we should all live by how you think.
    i brought up america because you started slagging off australia saying that it was full of criminals which is just ridiculous. i wouldnt suggest you live in a glass house.

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  • aussiewolf

    wow you really are very arrogant and ignorant. so because bill clinton got a bj..... ugh you are just too full of yourself and too stubborn to even bother with. and its really sad and pathetic that you had to make a comment about australia being "full of criminals". i think its even sadder that america is the fattest country in the world and has the highest murder rate. but i dont want to get into an argument with a pathetic arrogant fool....

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  • aussiewolf

    wow calm down SwimBikeRun. i dont know how things work where you are but in "Aussie", we dont get upset because people have different opinions. this site is about different opinions and seeing things from different views. how can you compare Bill Clinton to an 18 year old kid? i think there is about 40 years difference there?? dont quote me on that though, i dont know the exact age of Bill Clinton. i wouldnt want you calling me an idiot again. i guess most people here look in the grey area instead of thinking black and white because life isnt just black and white.

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  • WilliamAnderson

    You are normal...I be with my girlfriend when I was 18...she's 14...and we had sex...

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  • someonenotkelly

    well you are 24 now so shes 21 right? thats completely normal!! Her mom shouldnt have a problem with it anymore.

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  • cobra31584

    By Us law no it's not ok. She needs to be 16 to even say yes. I got screwed on that when I was 17, I was dating a 15 yr old. That was 10 yrs ago and we're still friends to this day.

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  • notoriousD

    It's stupid that it is illegal for an 18yr old to have sex with a 15yr old when an 18yr old can have sex with a 40yr old and thats legal!? gross

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  • southernbarbie16

    Same thing happened to me, but I was the girl.

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  • SwimBikeRun

    Aussiewolf. Thank god you're not a lawyer because you are not understanding one statement coming out of my mouth and you make totally unrelated retorts. You plainly said that it's ok to be in a relationship with a minor as long as you're not having sex. To which I responded that apparently you think it's ok for an adult and minor to have oral sex, or fool around or whatever you want to call it. I guess the word "illegal" is not in your vocabulary. Illegal means the majority of the populaion thinks it's immoral and as a result you will get in big trouble. So apparently you think like a criminal. Where America comes into this argument as being fat I'm not really understanding how that argument us applicable to this topic. Again, the only comment I'm interested in, from you, is how an adult fooling around with a minor is ok in your book because that is disturbing to me.

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  • SwimBikeRun

    1. The "Bill Clinton" was referring to an "act" not an age.
    2. An adult having any sort of sexual relationship with a minor is NOT an opinion. Last time I checked I don't recall a police officer catching an adult in that situation and saying "Oh I'm sorry. It's your opinion that it's ok to fool around with a minor? Don't worry about it then. And by the way, there is an elementary school around the corner if you get bored with that one. Have a nice day now." No. Doesn't happen. Ass gets thrown in jail and you end up on a public sexual preditor website. It IS a black and white situation.
    3. I know Australia is full of criminals. But sheesh, how hard is that to understand?

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  • SwimBikeRun

    I don't know how things work down in "Aussie" but here in the States an 18 year old touching or groping or petting or doing the "Bill Clinton" with a 15 year old IS ILLEGAL. Legal adult. Legal child. Are there really this many idiots out there who think nothing can happen here???

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  • SwimBikeRun

    Three years isn't that much except when one of the people is a legal adult and the other is a minor. Duh! It could land him in jail and on that pedophile website FOR LIFE. Wake up people!!

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