Is a guy recovering from testicular cancer surgery a turn off?

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I'm a 24 year old who had to get a jewel removed when I was 18 and go through chemo. I've recovered and have all my hair back, and got an implant, but still have a nasty scar running up my sack and just above my belt line. I'm well hung, but don't give out much of a "payload" for obvious reasons. I've had plenty of hook ups before then and since then, but haven't been real successful with a long term relationship because of my low self esteem.
I refuse to take my boxers off for sex.
I've had 4 chicks change their minds about sleeping with me while we're in bed after they find out about it. I now give out the "warning" before they take their top off.
Would this draw a line for you? Thoughts?

Yes, because of appearance/anatomy/mutilation 3
Yes, because of the idea of the cancer 2
No, not a turn off 27
Maybe, turn off for a hookup, not if in a relationship 8
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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    I would've thought it would be routine to be offered counselling after that type of cancer and subsequent surgery, due to the almost inevitable self-esteem issues you're now experiencing. If I were you I'd be looking for a support group of blokes in the same situation for some mutual support.

    Also, waiting until you're in bed with someone is leaving it a bit late: either mention it casually in conversation much earlier than that, or don't mention it at all - keep the lighting low and if she notices the scarring keep your response low key, if you can.

    If your sexual partners have all been very young women into body image and "perfection" that's another issue entirely.

    It must have been a terrible shock for you at so young an age: I wish you well

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    Do you wave it in public?

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  • kla631
    7 years ago

    Its you dude. You're letting the scar from your sack to your belt line--wow I had no idea they did that, I thought they just cut the sac, took out the testicle, implanted a silicone one and you healed with a small scar--you're letting it get to you. You're dick is intact I take it. I'm gay and I'd still do a guy with a scar. If the scar bothers you that much, maybe plastic surgery.

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  • Yankeepoint
    7 years ago

    I had a testicle removed around 40 years ago. I'm a shaved nudist, and I've only had a couple people ever notice. No one cared.

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  • i.am.still.a.pervert
    7 years ago

    Get a job as a male stripper. Why not, what the fuck?

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  • McBean
    7 years ago

    Even though girls say it doesn't matter, they will be creeped out. Keep the lights off, don't say anything. You are healthy; that's what counts.

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  • you_go_glen_coco
    7 years ago

    You could tell them that your penis was so big that they had to cut half of it off and that is why you have a scar.
    You can also say that your scar hurts whenever bad guys are near.

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  • _Mehhhh_
    7 years ago

    I can't see why women would be that turned off unless they were really shallow tbh, as long as you can still get it up and use it.

    Congrats on your recovery though, it's good to hear a successful treatment story.

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  • TurtleBurger
    7 years ago

    I think maybe the turn off is primarily coming from your self esteem issues surrounding it. I would obviously mention it to the girl long before getting to the bedroom, that way you can tell straight away that she's either shallow or she is open minded - just don't describe it in really off-putting language, not like "yeah I had testicular cancer and now my genitals are all scarred and mutilated and I look like a freak show" that would turn them off. Just be upfront and honest "hey, if this were to go further I just wanted to let you know that I used to have testicular cancer. They removed one of my testicals and there is some scarring but I had an implant and otherwise my dick is in perfect working order" y'know, something like that. If you also mention it during the date it could become a conversation topic, maybe she can relate it back to her life in some way because cancer touches a lot of people and their families, who knows, it might deepen your connection.

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