Inn to be more cruel when alone then socialize with people?

Thank you for explaining, I do appreciate it.

I do think you are normal to feel that way. I also think you are very tolerant.

You see most people would feel just as angry as you do by the situation. Some people would confront the rude behavior right away, but other people, who don't like confrontation, would hold it inside and avoid contact with the offensive person.

Personally, I am a confrontational sort of person. I'm sure that you have noticed this because I wanted to understand your post so much that I pestered you with so many questions. [Smile] I use to be like you, but I became so frustrated by feeling like a doormat, so I changed. Now I only trust my spouse, my family, and a handful of close friends. I never fully trust the motives of anyone else, but I am polite and friendly to everyone that I meet because it is not necessary for the whole world to know that I don't easily trust people.

I think that young people do tend to trust people more than people over the age of 25 (just a random guess) because they are still very naive about people's motives.

Again, I'm glad you explained yourself. You have a good point.

to the people that want this guy to learn english - stop being such dicks. he/she can obviously speak better engish than most of you. and if you cant read between the lines to understand the message then you really are stupid.

its normal for me... i am a different person when i am alone. i hang with people i hate because i dont want the confrontation involved in telling them how retarded they are.

Yes, I find that I go to the same places

Did you just type this in your own language then use a translater?

Learn to speak English. And stop being a bitch.

Crap, didn't check my post twice.

"...he lock my out and..." Me, not my

"...opinion don't matter to me, I stopped..." Him, not me

"...contract him, with tell him..." Without, instead of with.

"'I build my own sense of identity and protect it so I can see who's the weakest link...'

How does protecting your identity help you see who's the weakest link?"

I don't want to let people's opinion of me get the best of me. Like, for explain, if someone say "I don't think you should be close-minded", I can see that guy is try to take advantage of you and make you look bad to him, but it's clearly to me that he barely know who I am. In fact, I AM close-minded to some people I disgust, I like it way so there is nothing they can do about it. You know, I've always been fascinated with Les Buscaglia's famous quote, "Only the week is cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong." Which that lead to next part of my sentence...

"'...usually any kind of invalidator...'

Normally, invalidator isn't a word typically used in the English language and if it is, it is used to refer to an official (like someone in an government job) who can invalidate or nullify things. So, using this word in your sentence makes no sense at all."

I looked up the word invalidate and result of synonyms show up: abate, weaken, impair, disprove, refute, rebut. Maybe that is the wrong word, but as far as I can see, I don't think there is any reason that I should replace that word. IMO, it have to do more than official stuffs alone.

"I am also confused by some conflicting ideas in the next part of your sentence with the sentence following it:

'...my wall still do tend to melt almost completely when anyone is around me. What they don't know is how different I am when I'm by myself...'

If your wall melts around people, then wouldn't it be safe to assume that they do know the real you? Your sentences contradict one another."

By wall melts around people, I mean I'm being polite toward them. It's not like I'm going to tell them right away what I don't like about them, I mean, don't it ever occur to you that someone you trusted would talk behind your back, sure as, I don't know, your best friend?

"'...without let them know after I've seem enough about who they really are.'

What????"

Okay okay, lemme tell you what happened to me, one year ago I met a friend through my lil bro. At first I thought he seem to be cool, but as time pass, he always joke about that I don't even think is funny at all, mostly gay stuffs. And he don't even care what people thinking, sure as he asked me if I can share my bedroom with him, I said sure he can sleep on couch, but he lock my out and slept on my bed with his girlfriend. And he often asked me to party around with him and his friends at his house, which is same things all over again and again, it's getting tiresome. So since my opinion don't matter to me, I stopped contract him, with tell him the reason why I want to move on. That is an explaination, if I see him again I won't tell him how jackass he is, I just keep my mouth shut up. That is my whole point of post my question here.

I never said that it's not my FIRST language.... my background is much more complicated than that... anyway, glad you point things out for me, that make thing much easier for me to explain.

"What do you mean by "more cruel when alone"?
The definition of cruel is: willfully or knowingly causing pain or distress to others.
So WHO are you being cruel to?"

Hmm, I'm not sure if cruel is the right word. I think "bitter" is more like it, it have alot have to do with thinking for yourself when you're alone.

No I think it's normal. I understand what you mean. Like when I'm in detention and there is nothing to do , so I think about how ugly someone's hair is, when in reality I realize how mean that is. I guess it's just fun.

It's obvious that English is not your first language, but if you want your English-speaking readers to understand anything of what you are writing, then you have to put a little more effort into writing out your questions.

It's not just that your English grammar is poor, it's that your whole sentence structure is completely jumbled up and you use some words that make absolutely no sense compared to the words around them or even in your paragraph.

I don't think you understand just how bad your English really is and rereading your story doesn't help to grasp your point. You obviously have not mastered complex English sentence structure yet, so maybe you should stick to what you do know and make simpler sentences.

I probably shouldn't be wasting my time explaining this to you, but I'm feeling generous.

Fine, let's start with your title then:

"INN to be more cruel when alone than socialize with people?"

What do you mean by "more cruel when alone"?
The definition of cruel is: willfully or knowingly causing pain or distress to others.
So WHO are you being cruel to?

The next thing that doesn't make sense is:

"I build my own sense of identity and protect it so I can see who's the weakest link..."

How does protecting your identity help you see who's the weakest link?

And what about the rest of your sentence:

"...usually any kind of invalidator..."

Normally, invalidator isn't a word typically used in the English language and if it is, it is used to refer to an official (like someone in an government job) who can invalidate or nullify things. So, using this word in your sentence makes no sense at all.

I am also confused by some conflicting ideas in the next part of your sentence with the sentence following it:

"...my wall still do tend to melt almost completely when anyone is around me. What they don't know is how different I am when I'm by myself..."

If your wall melts around people, then wouldn't it be safe to assume that they do know the real you? Your sentences contradict one another.

Next up:

"...without let them know after I've seem enough about who they really are."

What????

It would be helpful if you reread my story all over again and again to grasp my point. English isn't my primer language, so I hate to explain myself.

Oh yea, I misspell the word "than" in title.

Ignore my poor sense of prescriptive grammar, you know what I'm talking about anyway.

I'm sorry, but I find your sentences don't make a lot of sense.