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So, the last time I had any sexual contact with a man was a few months ago with my ex-fiancée (word?). I’m at the point where i’m just so desperate for a man to fucking hold me. I just want to be held. Ladies, are you experiencing the same thing?
- Beth
I'm not a lady; but, your feelings are indeed normal.
Decent men do exist... and I'll admit that they can be hard to find.
Find some activity or interest group and start to participate. Likely some guys will be part of that... and you will find one that you get along well enough to attract the emotional and physical care that you need.
I'm always open for coffee from someone in my area. Hugs are natural for the right person. I'm selective beyond that (and I'm likely much older than you).
I like to think there are a lot of decent men open to the same thing most anywhere. I'd like to believe that if you are positive and active in something that you will meet them.
I wish you the best and hope you find who you need in both the short term and the long term.
Your advice is the best I've ever gotten on this site. I didn't get any sleep last night, as I just moved back to my hometown and I have to be quaratined for fourteen days. I can't see my family or anyone until that time is up. I was scrolling through INN and I saw your comment. To be honest with you, I cried, lol. And it wasn't because I was sad, it was because it was the most endearing, helpful, comment i've ever received. So, thank you. Thank you so much.
You are welcome.
I wish you well with your quarantine. You'll pull through, and do well.
You may wish to start doing some research on what you are interested in and activity groups in your area.
Do you like museums, Parks, Hiking, Bicycle riding, Motor bike riding, Cars, Boats, Water-skiing, horseshoes, and about 5000 other things.
Perhaps you like looking at the night sky and looking at planets, stars, clusters, etc in the sky at night. Lots of astronomy groups. Tend to be highly male... and most of them appreciate looking at heavenly bodies... here on earth as long as they have a great attitude.
You might wish to focus on activities that have a higher % of men in them (not many men in the crochet or quilting clubs).
I wish you the best. You have a great life of laughter loving and living life ahead of you...
Let me tell you this girl, I've braved years on before without the warmth of a woman's body, carrying out a mission... not the missionary style mission of course. Hehe.
You do know that because you're a young woman you can pretty much attract just about anybody if you turn up the charm, right?
If I'm not mistaken you said in the past you wound up with mostly bad people. Put yourself out there again and you'll definitely find someone decent eventually. Just don't come off as desperate. You'll wind up attracting terrible people if you do.
Yeah i remember i hit that desperation. Im a dude Though searching for a wife
No, I am actually the opposite. I am not a romantic or sexual person at all.
I would just say to just make sure that desperation doesn't lead you to doing something you will later regret.
Well go and find one, they’re everywhere in case you haven’t noticed lol.
My heart is not devoid of desire, but desperation is a state of mind that would serve me quite poorly.
I believe that, "the only true freedom is freedom from the heart's desire, and the only true happiness this way lies."
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If you are hot then you should be able to get a date, plenty of lonely men out there.