Inn for a guy you like to hide his feelings for you because of your ex?

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Hello,
I may have a wee bit of a problem, because my ex-boyfriend still likes me and is close friends with my crush.

However, my crush shows signs that he likes me, ( stares when he thinks i'm not looking, '' play fights '' with his friends and then looks at me, hangs around me, etc. ) WHEN my ex is NOT present;
ex: sick, on vacation, etc.

When my ex IS present he'll completely ignore me, won't look at me, pretend like I don't even exist.

What the fuck is going on? Can somebody please explain???

Thanks,

SomewhereNorth

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    You’re crush is probably just trying to be a good friend. If I were you, I’d ask your ex if they feel comfortable with you pursuing your current crush. That way your crush doesn’t feel like he’s “back stabbing” or whatevs.

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    • SomewhereNorth
      4 years ago

      I have talked to my ex about it and he says he doesn't want me liking my crush. He says it's ''fucked up if I like my crush '' - because it's his friend - '' and not him. ''

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Okay well, your ex sounds like someone you should ignore. Jealous and bitter. This is why I don't like being just friends after being serious or having sex or whatever.

        Literally SOOOO many times girls be like "I think we should stop being intimate/having sex or whatever, but I still like your personality so we can just be friends" and I always reply the same way "I don't do just friends sorry. Nothing wrong about you just doesn't feel right" or something along those lines.

        So, in conclusion, my advice is to try and dissociate from your ex. Get him as out of the way as you can and maybe tell your crush, once he likes you back, that your ex tried to keep you guys apart. This should put him even more on your side.

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        • SomewhereNorth
          4 years ago

          That's a very good idea. Thank you so much. Have a good rest of your day!

          -SomewhereNorth

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          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            No problem chief.

            -d0esnormalmatter

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      • litelander8
        4 years ago

        That’s tough dude. So it’s definitely clear that even if your crush had the hots for you, he couldn’t act on it. Which shows a lot of respect for his friend. You’re just going to have to decide to pursue the crush and hurt the ex or look elsewhere for a relationship. Cheers

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        • SomewhereNorth
          4 years ago

          Good idea. Thanks, man! You have a good one!

          - Somewhere North

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  • Unknown_player
    4 years ago

    Could be that hes intimidated by your ex or could be that hes sticking with the silly rule of bro's before hoes and doesn't want your ex to catch on. Also if you can elaborate, is your ex good friends with you? It would give your question more context

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    • SomewhereNorth
      4 years ago

      Yeah, my ex is pretty good friends with me. We DM and text eachother because I'd feel bad if I just suddenly had to drop him. If I gradually let him go I feel like it'll be ok. ( Side Note: Should I cut contact with him? I mean, he's leaving college next year.. )

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