Infertile people trying to get pregnant?

Well, most people prefer to have their own seed instead of a stranger's, and if they can't have any children the natural way, they're going to do it any other way possible.

How does someone getting knocked up and orphaning a child become our problem though? I mean, I understand there will be extenuating circumstances, and I'm not saying for or against, but if people choose to have their own "seeded" children then what is it your business to judge? Same as some people are happy to mature someone else's spawn, some are not.

My husband was adopted and has no idea who is birth family is. He would love nothing more than to understand what it means to share blood with someone. I can't unknow this. And while I find it overrated, I can also see why people would seek it out. It isn't for me to decide how important it is for others. We would never do this but I can't tell people how to spend their money.

Whats really the difference between fertile and infertile people in this line of thought? those orphans still need to be adopted, just because you CAN get knocked up, doesn't mean you should, you can always adopt instead. There is no difference between the two, both want a child of their own, the only difference is that the fertile are luckier.

I don't think it's any of your business.

...Honestly, I never really thought about this before. I can see the point of "Well, it's their choice", but personally, after thinking about it, I think I have to agree with OP.

Initially I might've argued with the OP but then I remembered through a summer job I had, I got to know a couple of kids-brother and sister around the age of 9 and 10.

They were wonderful, beautiful and fun kids. I can't understand how their parents could've abandoned them and let them live in a foster home, it was the saddest thing.

If I was in the right position at the time to adopt them I would've in a heartbeat. They also hinted at the idea.

While I still would want to have my own biological children in the future maybe-I am open to idea of adoption.

Personally, I would prefer the adoption route for myself. Like Parrish said, it's got its own financial aspect, but I think I'd rather not go through the emotionally drain of IVF etc. But I'm not going to say that anyone who prefers to try that route is stupid/selfish/whatever. It is their choice.

I don't think you can have a real, heartfelt opinion on this until you are having fertility issues yourself. As a woman who has had two miscarriages so far, I think there's something wrong with my fertility, it hurts a lot to think I may not be able to have my own child or do the most natural thing in the world, reproduce.
I guess I would grow to love an adopted child but you don't get that instant unconditional love. They still aren't your own child at the end of the day.
From your question, I am guessing your fertility is perfectly fine and you don't have a clue how hurtful it is to know you can't carry your own child.

So, why don't you take in a foster child? Since waiting for a barren couple to do it is such a waste of time.

I agree. I even think it's selfish to get pregnant at all. Adopt a kid, if you want another -well, make your own then, alright.

I definitely think people who spend thousands on IVF are the most selfish of the selfish. I personally think anyone who goes out of their way to try to have "their own" child is selfish. I'm an adopted child, myself (as it's well-known on here), and I believe my birth mom AND my adoptive mom were both incredibly selfless. I can attest to the fact that the bond between an adoptive mother and child is JUST as strong as the bond between a birth mom and child...it makes me upset when wannabreeders think it's more important to pay thousands of dollars for IVF treatment that might not even work, than to spend thousands of dollars to adopt a child who DOES exist and who needs a home, simply because those people are so damn selfish that they want their own shitty DNA passed on.
Before you breeders say anything, I would consider adopting if I wasn't so sure I'd be the world's worst parent. I would consider it in a heartbeat.

Adopting costs a lot of money and time, too.

Yeah! Selfish our world has far to many people on it, we are ruining our world because of our growing demand, so many kids in care would benefit so well for having someone adopt them and show them love exists and not all humans abandon them, it would do future generations good to because they won't grow up feeling unloved and angry.

If you're so concerned with orphan children, then go adopt one and stop passing judgment on people who want to have what everyone else biologically is gauranteed!

If you were one of the people who were spending money on trying to have a child, you would understand. Most of the "orphan" children aren't that at all. They're not up for adoption. They are just being held by the state because their parents are drug addicts or abusive assholes. And most people want babies.

If I had a option to not have a baby shooting outve of me and still be able to riase a child Id take it in a heart beat I wouldnt cry and say oh no I cant have a child what on earth will I do " ? This is the same thing as puppys and I am not saying poeple are dogs but poeple keep making dogs have puppys that are pure bread when thier is so many perfectly good animals at the pound infact most of them with basic training ? We are so over poppulated why are brining in more life that can not be taken care of Why do poeple not try to help the stuff we have already we are way over populated we dont need anyone being selfish .

Adoption is a fuck tonne of money too, and takes a ridiculous amount of time.

Even worse is when very old people insist on having kids. The likelihood of genetic diseases increases exponentially with age.

People want their own child. A child that they can watch grow and see who's side he or she favors.

"I don't want to bring another kid into this world. But how do you argue against loving one that's already here?" -John Cusack in Martian Child

Some people cant afford to adopt. And others who spend money to get pregnant another way may want a child of their own. I guess it's selfish, but I would want my own baby created from myself and a partner. Maybe idk what I'm saying, I'm only 17.

I agree with you but adoption is not free or cheap either. This coming from an orphan I should be ashamed of what I just said.