Incarcerated, him and our marriage

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Hi, I have known my Husband for 14 years. For 6 of those fourteen years we have been married. Yes, I did marry him while he has been serving time. He's been in prison since 1995. He has a son with another woman, and I have a 9 year old daughter, who has come to to know him as Daddy. My first Husband beat me and abandoned me and my daughter, when my daughter was just a month old. My question is, is what I did normal by marrying a man in prison? And is it normal for me to be so pissed I can't see straight at my ex, now that I have come across him on MySpace, he NEVER has sent any child support, yet he has a new wife and a 4 year old dauhgter? I am so over my ex, but I am pissed about how he never cared about the child he had with me then he has another one. Am i Normal, what do you think, be honest.

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  • DwayneHicks
    12 years ago

    Oh lord...

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  • joliegems
    14 years ago

    yes, its normal to feel angry. But the guy you choose to marry was in jail when you married him. That is not a good way to start a relationship. You didn't even really know him. Also, weren't you scared bringing a an ex con in your home with a young daughter?

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    • heartbrokenbutterfly
      13 years ago

      and an ex con doesnt mean child molestor. come on.

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    • heartbrokenbutterfly
      13 years ago

      she said she knew him for a long time before she married him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    There are so many men in jail in America maybe its becoming a major way to meet guys! On that question, how do you meet a guy who is serving time in jail?

    Anyway ... Is that normal? One can't judge. Could be a great guy. Johnny Cash. Or could be you run with the criminal class. Who knows.

    Around child support, it is your daughter's right to be provided for & why wouldn't you be pissed. You can pursue a support order. If you consider going this route, consider & have a plan for safety. He is a women beater. Hope guy #2 is a whole lot better.

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  • myshipsank
    14 years ago

    ultimately neither. you should be mad at yourself for not caring enough about your daughter by marrying a man in prison.

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    • Blabla123
      6 years ago

      Maybe he went to prison because of not paying taxes or had car accident? Is it really that bad

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    • heartbrokenbutterfly
      13 years ago

      what does that have to do with caring about her daughter? not all people in prison are bad people.

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  • Chill_Pill
    14 years ago

    You are normal to be pissed! What a jerk.

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  • 1president
    14 years ago

    You can't help those that you love- just know with all your heart that in their heart that they are trying to help you. going to prison doesn't mean squat. When you have been through abuse ( I was raped twice and also had an abusive boyfriend) you start to figure out what is important to you. Stay away from what isn't.the two rapist boyfriends and the abuser never went to prison- my current boyfriend who had a very troubled past before I met him is truly the greatest man that I have ever known. and as far as Hating your ex... the ability to not feel that overwhelming want to knock your lights out feeling when you see him all depends on you- you are the only one who can control your thoughts and your actions and your feelings. My ex of four years did me horribly- threw me out of a moving car for goodness sakes- and I am completely 100%% over him, but the thought of dotting him the face does cross my mind sometimes when people talk about him I don't feel like he owes me anything anymore though- because the longer that I continue to think that he does the longer my brain allows me to associate with him even if it isn't in person.

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