In to want to feel pitiful?

52% Normal
5 Comments

I know this is a strange question, but does anyone else find one thing that don't like about themselves, and just try to feel worse about it? I do this once in a while and curious whether others do it too.

For instance, I'm black and have nappy hair.
Recently I checked websites about it and just negative ones. I like trying to feel bad about it.

Sometimes I get into a "mood" and want to feel a little sorry for myself. I'm not just talking about my hair, but things like ugliness. I don't actually think I'm ugly. I say I'm average or a low scale of ugly but I just like trying to feel sorry for myself. I wouldn't say like but something I just prefer doing in my spare time if I'm in the mood too.

Am I the only one who does this? Or do most people but it is on the low?

Voting Results
52% Normal
Based on 21 votes (11 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 5 )
  • CherryPoppins
    8 years ago

    The funny thing is doesn't led to change. Also I'm no masochist but I'm not ruling out the possibility though.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • yourdeepestshame
    8 years ago

    I frequently fixate on my sources of shame and failings, but it's not something I want or enjoy.
    In some cases, self criticism can be productive in that it allows for introspection and change.
    However too much of this mindset is extremely unhealthy and potentially crippling.
    The version of self-criticism you describe sounds harmful, there's no point in trying to feel worse about your failings; all it does is cause the wound to fester further. As someone mentioned above, it could be that you're a masochist.
    Having said all that, I don't think it's normal.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • lemonpeezy
    8 years ago

    Maybe you're a masochist. I do that shit all the time, many people do it, it's common, but I don't think it's an act of kindness towards yourself.

    Try to truly enjoy overcoming those thoughts by drowning them out with love and acceptance for yourself. For every flaw you see find 5 more things you find beautiful. I think if you master that ability, you will enjoy yourself more. Finding strength in yourself is definitely more satisfying than wallowing in self pity. I think "that mood" you're talking about has become a strange comfort zone for you, and I think that must be replaced with something greater and more positive instead.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • CherryPoppins
      8 years ago

      Are you a masochist? I don't consider myself to be one. I don't like pain. Or maybe I'm slightly masochistic.

      I don't want to overcome those thoughts. It's more of something I just do when in the mood to. I was curious if it was a normal thing. Thanks for your reply.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • SuMaFTW
    8 years ago

    That's a way of beating yourself up. There's enough people who will do that to you, so you should instead try to build yourself up. See a hair stylist and findnout what can be done for your hair.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0