In to have girl crush/fantasy/obsession

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Hi everyone. This might be a bit hard for me to explain. I'm a girl, and I'm questioning my sexuality (truth be told I haven't been with anyone yet, so...) and I have a crush (if you could even call it that) on this girl. The thing is, this is where it gets kind of...scary. I hardly know anything about her, just her name and that she's a year older than me. I never even talk to her, but when I see her, I get this weird butterflies-in-stomach chest tightening sensation. When she crosses my mind I can't stop thinking about her and about how beautiful she is. I'll think about how great it would be if we could be together, and begin to berate myself, saying that someone like me is worthless and not worthy of someone like her. This is beginning to terrify me, this infatuation is borderline if not complete obsession. This is not right. I know next to NOTHING about her, why do I feel so compelled towards her, why do I want her so badly?! I wouldn't dare say anything about it to anyone I know, I wouldn't dare act on any of this. What is this?! What is going on? Is this some sort of one-sided love? I don't even know what to call it. Love? Infatuation? Lust? But one thing I need to know is... Is this normal?

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  • Redlegs24
    11 years ago

    Yea when your young you have lots of crushes & it's normal. You could also be bi sexual

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Maybe you're lesbian or bisexual. This is totally normal. Is she attracted to women?

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    OK. Don't panic, but this called projection. That is, your projecting yourself into her because she's your ideal self, the person you'd most like to be like. This, coupled with your low self esteem(you say you're not worthy to even be with her), makes you use her as an object for self-effacement. Realizing this is the first step, but if you can't get a grip on it, you might get to counseling. You sound young, and will probably outgrow it.

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