In to hate my father for what he did to my mother?

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things were great until the patriarch of our family cheated on our mother, plunged us into debt and found another woman....with money and developed the ego of a politician.Ever since we have essentially had to lie about how close and normal things are to our extended family. We are currently not speaking (my father and I) due to one of his recent outbursts. Is it normal for me to hate my father for ruining my mothers life with debt, adultery and eventually another woman? He is living more well off now than ever before while my mother struggles to pay off the debt he accumulated as well as bills. He never payed child support yet makes far more than 100 grand a year.

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Based on 34 votes (28 yes)
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  • sexysonofsam
    8 years ago

    Sadly it is normal. You however should not hate your father for what he did to your mother...you do not really know what happened between them.

    A man or a woman do not wake up one fine morning and say, "I think I will file for a divorce today!"

    This is something that happens between them over a long period of time!

    Do not resent yourself for their divorce either because it probably has nothing to do with you.

    Support your mother during this time, soon she too will find somebody else and carry on with her life!

    The court decides who has to pay who and how much, if this is not done by the party who must pay, the other party needs to report this to the authorities, they will enforce the court order. If he still fails to pay he could go to jail!

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    • RamennoodleMaster
      8 years ago

      well common and normal are two different things. It is common to find villages in china where everyone is sick with cancer but it certainly isn't normal. I know enough of what happened between them to know that he kicked my mother out and demanded she be out the next day for.... "not minding her own business". And no my mother is happy single, she puts family first and who can blame her taking into account the countless stories of step fathers beating, molesting and killing the families they associate with. Some are good, but honestly the risk is too high for the family. I'm in my mid 20s, have degree and a good job, I think we will manage just fine. but thanks for the kind words.

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      • sexysonofsam
        8 years ago

        Anytime friend, I trust that everything will be better for you and your Mom now. God bless!

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    I hope he gets prostate cancer.
    ;-)

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  • janevolturi98
    8 years ago

    you are still lucky because your dad will leave the house but not me . eventhough my mom hates my dad , that pig won't get out of the house like he is a real pig that has no ashameness and just letting more poop in the house . my mom has asked for a divorce but he won't divorce my mom and he abused my mom mentally that she starts to be mean to her children .

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      terrible, i recommend u call the police and have him taken off the property. IF he is abusive. Continued abuse, even verbal is illegal and considered assault.

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  • jr__
    8 years ago

    He's mean.

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  • GuitarHero1994
    8 years ago

    Yeah its definitely not the best feeling in the world when you write a whole album about your true love and then she fucks 2pac in a hotel party.

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