In my first relationship but guy won't commit? iin?

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He broke up with his fiance just before getting with me like 2 months prior. He admitted to me he did love her and it was a good relationship until her sister died.

He actually broke up with her because her sister died. Weird I know but her sister died a year ago and he said they fell apart as the communication was angry often because of the death and he didn't know how to cope. Said he didn't handle arguing well because he had a traumatic childhood where his father abused him so he stayed away from her more to avoid fights.

ANYWAY he won't commit to me, tells me he can't label it, can't say he loves me yet etc. I feel like he's more like a friend than boyfriend..

We've been together 7 months and he still can't say what this is.

Is this normal?

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  • CozmoWank
    5 years ago

    Get out now. Why should he change if you're willing to put up with his noncommittal attitude?

    Plus it sounds like he bailed on his ex at a time when she may have needed him to be there for her.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    My father abused me my entire childhood. He starved me, got me irrecuperably sick, encouraged me to commit suicide and wanted to kill me before I was born.

    Is this a reason to mess with my girlfriend's life and play with her? No.

    He can't say he loves you means you two are not in a relationship. He is fooling and using you. That's all you need to know. Everything else is bullshit.

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  • e51pegasi
    5 years ago

    So the guy got into a rebound relationship with you 2 months after splitting with his fiancé. Their loving relationship ending due to external forces, no infidelity, no abuse.

    Read that back to yourself & does this sound like a long term relationship the two of you really want to be getting into?

    It also sounds like he's still carrying baggage from his childhood as well. The reason it feels like a friendship is because it probably is, it sounds like the guy's head is in bits & you are talking about commitment after 7 months?

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    He's not a good catch. Throw him back in the water, girl. He is also on the rebound, and emotionally unavailable.

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