In love with someone who is married

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I'm completely in love with a married man I met a few months ago. I don't usually like anybody, this is only the third man I've ever been interested in first. I've just dated men who were drawn to me before I even noticed them. To my disappointment all three of them were married and I only found out after I took interest in them. I never did anything about it, nor would I want to, I wouldn't want to wreck anyone's home and I'd hate to have that done to me, so no.

Now here's the thing, I want him but I don't want him to flirt with me or want to have me either. I would lose any respect I have for him, which I do. He's an incredible man, and he's so hot. So, I just daydream about being his wife in his wife's place, living a mild fantasy. I have no idea how their relationship is but I imagine it's alright. However, I keep hoping it's bad and it ends.

Find someone else and get over him 36
Keep it platonic and enjoy whatever you can 9
Steal him and run away to Monte Carlo 4
Other (please, comment) 3
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  • TwoThumbs
    10 years ago

    I disagree with "finding someone else and get over him". I would suggest GETTING OVER HIM...Then finding someone else. There's nothing like being with someone and thinking about someone else. You need to get this idea out of your head. It's one thing to find someone attractive...but you're doing more than that. You're holding the slight idea that it maybe could potential just maybe happen one day. You need to get that idea out of your mind. Being with someone who is married can never happen. Never. Especially not successfully.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    If you have an affair with this guy and he does leave his wife for you, you know damn well he will do the same thing to you, right?
    So all you will have accomplished is to destroy his marriage, hurt his wife and eventually you will end up getting hurt, too.
    Where's the plus in this scenario?
    Go find a single guy and leave this poor fellow alone.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    You're playing with fire missy i hope you don't get burnt.

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  • enid23
    10 years ago

    I disagree with a comment that says: " don't do anything unless he reciprocates", even then DON'T DO ANYTHING, he will never leave his wife for you, and you will always be "the other", have some respect for yourself and move on. BTW you are definitely NOT in love with him, what you have is an obsession and/or fantasy. It's not real, and you should probably get some help (this is not a joke). you are attracting and taking interest only in married men, that is not a normal thing, it could happen once or twice but at this point you should ask yourself why this keeps happening. I'm glad that you think you don't want to wreck anybody's family. Good luck ;)

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  • nakedman
    10 years ago

    why Monte Carlo?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Why would anyone get married, that's crazy I tell ya.

    I don't want to see the same dang person my whole life.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Suck him off and swallow his cum then you don't owe him anything and then email me. You sound like a really wonderful person. I am married but I will throw her away for you. Lets take care of this problem together, you and I...

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  • ThomasWayne
    10 years ago

    Yes, because many times(not all the time) a married man is a responsible and care-giving person which women find very attractive unconsciously. Your social conditioning tells you that it is wrong but your primitive mind tells otherwise. Our brain is flawed. I also have a small fantasy like yours, I acted that fantasy then I crave for more. It's all that brain wiring and dopamine shit, you know what I am saying. My opinion is that biology comes first before our arrogant attempt to control our impulses and urges. I have been living in this world for quite some time and I saw shit happens. You can predict that a man no matter of what status will do crazy things when opportunity opens up. But it's only me.

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  • nawtyalice
    10 years ago

    quite a few of us have been in this position. and for many of us, its because its something we want but cant have. don't do anything about it unless he reciprocates. and in the meantime, get out and about and look for the love of your life, who is actually available

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