In love with someone who i have never dated...is this that normal?

I am 19 and there is this boy who is also 19 who I have liked for ages. We have always been friends throughout highschool (sopomore year-made out like twice when he was high and i was a little tipsy) Obvioulsy, back then we were a lot more immature than we are now, and never communicated to eachother that we liked eachother. I know he was just wanting to have fun and not commit to me, but i would of gone with him in a heart beat. Like I said, I REALLY liked this guy. We would hang out on and off after highschool with church friends but never hooked up or anything. We are both virgins and are wanting to wait until we have sex until we get married. We both come from christian families and are on the same page when it comes to morals,religon,etc. We went to homecoming together our junior year, he acted like he liked me then he would be all deffernt at school. I got so confused and eventually told him i liked him. He told me that he appreciated me telling him and gave me a hug saying he "just doesnt date". ( Know that this guy is very involved with music and is very FOCUSED.) And no he is not gay, haha. anyways after him beating around the bush that day, i eventually got over him. Took a while, but i did. Not to long ago this year the day before new years..we were sitting outside together, and he told me that he had been thinking about asking me this for a while and he asked me on what i think about the idea of him and I dating. Yes, I thought I was over him, but I wasnt because as soon as he said that i wanted to go crazy cause it had been something i had been waiting for, for so long.) I acted very non-chalant and told him that I would, but that we should take things slow, and see where things go. And he agreed. My point of all this is..is that he called me consistenly for about a week after and wanted to sit down and talk about it, we never got round to it, either he was doing something or I was doing something and it never got talked about. Even when all of us friends would hang out, he never brought it up. But he acted fine with me. WHAT THE HECK IS HIS DEAL? After nothing was said, about 2 mths after I crought up the whole deal...and his response was "I guess we got lost in transation." Now he lives in california and I am so hurt. I know I need to get over it and realise he is clearly not interisted, but why do you think he did all of this?