In love with coworker, and she just left

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I am not experienced at all with relationships and am in my late 20's. I am afraid to get close to people because they ultimately reject or leave me. This is because my mother killed herself when I was 12.

I have worked with this girl for three years. I tried very hard to keep my feelings in check because she is married, but I fell in love with her.

The last year or so has been the happiest in my life because I had someone who actually accepted me, even if it was just friendship.

She was the only reason I got up in the morning...and now she just moved to another state. When I found out she was leaving I had an actual panic attack (cold sweats, palpitations etc.)

I can't sleep, and I feel sad and afraid all the time...I mostly am angry at myself for allowing this to happen. I mean, I must be an idiot to fall for a married girl???

I know this is all very simple:

married + moved to another state = forget it and move on

I'm pretty sure this is all 0%% normal haha

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Awwwwww you r definitely th type of guy normal girls want to marry! If I were older.... Haha well I think it's just a little thing I call first timer's love cuz it's th first time you have even liked someone right? So you just THINK you r in love but don't worry! You WILL find someone! Don't give up hope! :)

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  • nikoleman
    14 years ago

    I'm with you man, hold on there you'll be alright.

    The only way to get past those barriers is to go out and meet more people. It might seem hard but it's not. The more people you meet the less scared you'll be and the more chances you'll get to meeting another friend/chick to be with.
    Just go out without thinking, have a beer in a bar with some random person you know or with your coworkers or co-whatever and you'll see how it all goes better. I've been in those too and found that when i go out, for some inexplicable reason, things turn out to go just fine even if i think they wont. Get the cycle going, go out every weekend even if you don't want to and things will be alright.

    best of lucks

    Hope it helps!

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  • holio
    14 years ago

    You seem to have an unhealthy attachment to your personal myth.

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  • Crazydiamond
    14 years ago

    I can see the problem. Think it's best to go 'cold turkey', cut off all contact (for a while at least) and try and meet some new people. You managed to connect with someone which is a good first step and proves that you can do it. Good luck!

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  • okcomputer
    14 years ago

    dude! you need to meet more chicks!

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  • Galaxy500
    14 years ago

    well, I'm sorry man, but you're the one who created and kept a crush on this girl. If you had told yourself "hey, she's married. She's off limits. Let's move on to another girl" then this wouldn't be happening to you right now. It's not healthy to solely attach yourself to one person. You need to partly attach yourself to many people! Plus, have some restraint. What's meant to be will be but she was already off limits.

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