In love with best friend, way more complicated

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My story?
ok, well- i've been in love with my best friend for two years now. the problem is, he happens to also be my ex.
after we broke apart, i didn't realize, but he had loved me even after we spilt. being as oblivious as i am, i just thought he was showing a great deal of affection because he knew i was hurt from our separation.
Now, it seems like he no longer feels that way, but I miss him so much. I need him so much. He tells me he loves me, but i know he only means it as a friend. We talk all the time, and if something's bugging me i know i could tell him, but i just can't get around to tell him this. Because If I do, i'm terrified i'll loose him, and he's just so good to me. I really want to tell him thought, but I don't know if i should or not.
He had had some feelings for a good friend of mine. He confined me about her, telling me everything he liked about her. Asking me what he should say when she's around. Thankfully, he does not have feelings any more.. But my friend still might. That good friend told me over and over again that I should just confess my feelings for him, but I don't really trust her. I don't know what to do. I don't know if it's enough to break our friendship, i just don't know. Don't tell me i don't love him, because I know i do.He protects me and cares about me even now. if you have some advice for me, i'd gladly appreciate it.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Suck him off and swallow so he knows you love him.

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  • abbey:)
    12 years ago

    leave him an anonymous question on tumblr asking him what his feelings are towards you haha

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  • pinkfingers
    14 years ago

    But if you don't try you will never know. He might even grow back his feelings towards you. Besides, the worst thing that could happen is he does not feel the same way.If he really loves you as a friend, he would not let this ruin your relationship.

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  • FlyingSheilds
    14 years ago

    He probably spent all that time trying to get over you, only now to find that you love him again. I don't think it's a good idea to be too direct...

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  • fathulk91219
    14 years ago

    this is completely normal

    i hate to say this but either tell him now of forever hold your piece

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  • JaneMusik
    14 years ago

    just how similar this is to my own situation is just weird. Tell him how you feel, you never know he might still feel something for you, expect he's just buried it deep down because he accepted a while ago it wasn't happening.

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    • pidgeonshaveAIDz45
      14 years ago

      i completely agree

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  • 4w04se
    14 years ago

    If you haven't tried you'd never know. It's better to know if it's going to work or not rather than just thinking about it. You'll be relieved if you be honest with him since you are still friends.. this is just a great thing already

    Give it a shot :)

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  • paul2cool
    14 years ago

    Watch friends ,the Rachel and Raus episodes
    AM not being funny ..........
    (OR maybe I am :)

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  • liloprado
    15 years ago

    ok that sounds exactly like my story, once, i felt in love with my ex, exactly like you did, he still loved me and everything, but i told him too late and he didnt had feelings for me anymore, anyways, we continued our friendship.

    and other time, i felt in love with my best friend. he told me he loved me and everything, and it looked like he started to look me as something more than a friend, but one day, he died, and I never told him how did i feel.
    i know, its sad, and it was real.

    tell him how you feel

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  • RogetBrit
    15 years ago

    You two are soulmates dear! Go forth and tie the knots back! All the best :)

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  • ShiraSenju
    15 years ago

    Well I don't know about the sex part BUT I'm going to share my experience. I'm in love with my bestfriend(we have been friends for 3 years) and the thing is that today I started to tell him, and before I could say anything he already knew. Right now we are still best friends. He told me he's not prepared to have a relationship right know. I'm just glad he reacted maturely and things went to normal (or I hope so).

    I say go for it, the worst thing that could happen is that he doesnt feel the same way.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    have a shower together:)

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    • TheSociopath102
      15 years ago

      listen to xoxoxo thats just might work .
      guys tend to get attached to freinds if they have sex ( especialy good freinds) . idk y we just do . lol

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    You should tell him how you feel. The worst he could do is tell you he appreciates you telling him but he would just like to remain friends. So either way you still get to keep your friend, but if he says he isn't feeling you that way then don't make it complicated he may change his mind in the future.

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