In love...? iin?

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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year, since Jan first of this year.. When we first started going out I loved the way he cared for me but I guess I didn't like him as much as he liked me cause he claimed I blocked myself from him.. So kinda secretly towards himself he grew less caring and so I grew more caring.. It's like we switched parts. Things began to hurt me more now that he started to do little things that had bothered me deeply.. I confronted him barely a couple of days ago and now he feels sorry about everything and the day after he poured he's emotions out that he would try and care about me more and then next day he was being unkind to me, I told him I was falling for him. I've never liked someone so much neither been with anyone for this long.. I had felt heartbroken that instant.. I had poured my heart out to him. He felt very bad and he says that he's trying I know people can't change in a day but if he truely cared for me he wouldn't have to try.. But from being the one blocking someone out I felt like I was doing nothing wrong, I know how he felt at that time then. I feel miserable. I then told him we need time to think but not to see other people, just a time for ourselves.. one week. i know people do these things for to think if they should be together or not, but I don't know what's on his mind.. For now I'm preparing myself for both outcomes. Am I in love? And am I doing the right thing, being there for someone who doesn't care for me as much as I care for him? Is this normal for me to feel like this? Help! Thx oxox

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    You sound like yor in that depressed state people get in after a fight. It's not that he doesn't care about you, or that him "Having to try to care about you" means he doesn't, he's just upset to and therefore being less caring. You need to stop, take a deep breath and realize the good things. He does care about you, and you care about him. Think positive!

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  • GeekiTheBrave
    12 years ago

    i think you had your time but you werent loving eachother at the same time so.. u cant help anything now.. he tried already.

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  • Agentbond20
    12 years ago

    Well, one I finished cutting through all the murky bullshit, you might be in love. If you are though, you'd know it...

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    This is why minors shouldn't have accounts in IIN. *sigh*. This is a typical teenage relationship, you'll get over it soon, so don't worry.

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  • ranna
    12 years ago

    Play hard to get then he will want u even more and stay away for a while

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    Guys are funny about relationships. If you approached him one day and asked him to change and he agreed, then the very next day, you brought it up again, I can see how he would have gotten upset.

    You said that if he truly cared, he wouldn't have to try. I don't agree with that. If he cares, he cares. What it sounds like you're asking him to do is try harder to show you that he cares, and for some people that takes effort. Someone may really care about you a lot, but may have a hard time showing it or may have to make an effort to show you in the way you expect to be shown.

    In a relationship, I'd be careful in setting specific expectations in a relationship, especially when it comes to determining whether he cares for you or not. If you find yourself saying, "If you loved me, you would ____," you may be setting realistic expectations.

    That's just my opinion based on what I read.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    Your doing the right thing, you are wise for your age! A little time apart may shed some light on his and yours decision. Good luck with your choices!

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  • clockgears
    12 years ago

    Ok. I understand that you love him. But Hun, you wrote a novel up there. If you have this many problems in a relashionship, maybe it's best to let it go. Move on, and find somebody who loves you back? You know the saying, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back its yours to keep, if it doesn't it was never yours in the first place"? I think you should give it a try. Maybe it wasn't the advice you wanted but I hope it helps (:

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  • zchristian
    12 years ago

    Athleast from how i understand it you are both doing something wrong...

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