Impulsively tell different friends different things?

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So, I have two different friends I'm having this problem with. They're both pretty different from each other, and I love them both (in a friendly way). But, sometimes, I tell both of them different things about myself. Like, I'll tell one that I think that singer is ok, but I'll tell the other friend that I like her! Then, they both get really confused and get mad at me and ask me to explain (it's usually about something more serious than that, though.) I'm not doing it on purpose, it's just that my opinion seems to change depending on which friend I'm talking to.

So this time, I told one of my friends that I wanted to see this movie. I few weeks later, she invited me to see it with her. I said yes. But, I was a little unsure. Also, we had just had a mini fight, so I thought it would be awkward to go to the movies with her. So, I called my other friend and told her i didn't really want to go. I told her I was going to tell my other friend that I no longer wanted to go, and she told me she wanted to hang out with me that day instead anyway. But, when I was on the phone with her, we worked out our issues, and I didn't say anything about the movie, I just told her to call me about it tomarrow. Then, apperently Friend 1 (the one who wanted the movie) called Friend 2 (one who wanted me to hang out with her) and Friend 2 got mad because I had told them completely different stories. Now they're both confused and mad at me. Is it normal, and what should I do?

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  • XJayX
    13 years ago

    I ment LONG not wrong, by the way!

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  • XJayX
    13 years ago

    No, thank you for your wrong reply! You actually explained my situation pretty well... Anyways, I think they're slowly getting over getting mad at me about it...and now I'm doing my best to stick to one answer, though I almost can't help changing my answer just a little..thanks, though!

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  • almostunreadable
    13 years ago

    First of all the key thing you mentioned here is that each of them is different from the other so you normally try to adapt to each specifically. Second thing is that one of them is (silently, but you can feel it) jealous that you are better friend with the other.

    Problems arise that these two friends think you are not "in sync" with both of them.
    The thing is that it is difficult to balance with them on each side as they are both very different, and you are trying to be as best as possible with each according to their personality. If they wouldn't know for each other everything would be perfect, but since they are in contact they get confused.

    It's normal albeit rare situation (you are all probably in teen years), but when you get in such situation it's very tricky and there is nothing you can do.

    In a nutshell: you are trying to be best friends with both of them, but as they are very different they don't get along so well. It's like you are link between them and each of them wants you for themself.

    Everybody sorry for my long reply!

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  • XJayX
    13 years ago

    Please comment, I need advice on how to stop confusing and upsetting my friends!

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