Importance of sex in your relationship

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How important is sex for you when it comes to the quality of your relationship and your satisfaction with the relationship? What role does sex play in your relationship?

(female) key role / extremely important 37
(female) quite important but not key role 51
(female) minor role / not very important 13
(female) unimportant 9
(male) key role / extremely important 69
(male) quite important but not key role 62
(male) minor role / not very important 13
(male) unimportant 7
I haven't been in a relationship yet (option for both genders) 26
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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago | pl

    Key role. Without it, it's technically not a relationship but a friendship.

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    • Hoppy2142
      11 years ago

      Sadly, you have been deceived into what society told you, sex is completely irrelevant in a true relationship, God created sex for 1 reason and 1 reason only, for a husband and wife to enjoy

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    • Hoppy2142
      11 years ago

      To us 5 who voted to unimportance, wisdom to you for you have seen through the lies of satan

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  • prasatko
    11 years ago

    For me, sex / sexual compatibility has always played the key role - it has always been the most reliable predictor of the overall quality of the relationship as well as my / our mutual satisfaction.
    I see it this way (which might apply just in my case but I think I am not alone):
    -with sexual compatibility - the relationship can be perfect, less perfect or very bad depending also on other factors (of course other forms of incompatibility may ruin it)
    -without sexual compatibility - the relationship can be bad or worse because dissatisfaction in this area will sooner or later contaminate and damage also other aspects of the attraction and satisfaction and relationship as a whole

    By the way, if sex did not play such an important role in my relationship, then I probably wouldn´t mind if the person had sex with someone else. But it would hurt me so much, so how could I say that sex is not so important in the relationship if it belongs to the things which I would not like to practise behind my partner´s back with someone else and I´d hate the idea that she may be having it with someone else? You know, other things are important too (opinion, hobbies, personality...) but it is not a disaster when she shares her hobbies or opinion with someone else. But sharing her sexuality with someone else? No, thanks:)

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    I dont have one. So sex would be out of the question. Unless maybe I buy a sex.

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  • boston12
    11 years ago

    i love sex and its important in my relationship. however ther will cum a tym wen our sex drive will diminish and im ok with that too. sex isnt everything in our relationship but we are very compatable in bed which helps.

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  • tehwalrus
    11 years ago

    Sex is the glue that holds a relationship together.

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  • xanyleon
    11 years ago

    It's important but I'd like to think I can also relate to the person on other levels too :)

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  • amaterasu
    11 years ago

    This kind of posts really depress me a lot. For me sex is such a trivial matter... yet... for mosts it plays the "key role" in a relationship. I really don't believe in that. All couples eventually start having less sex... And they have to find other ways to stay connected.
    I admit I enjoy having sex a lot. But for me it is more important to have good conversations and have compatible interests.
    Many in the past have gotten frustrated at me, because I am not a very sexual person. But well, I am just not like that; there are much more important things for me I guess.

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    • FredSumper23
      10 years ago

      I commend you sir!

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  • eenymeeny
    11 years ago

    I really really love sex.....I have finally found a guy that turns me on in every way, if it were up to me we would be having sex every chance we could get. All the things I didn't used to like so much about sex I just can't get enough of with him....his smell, his skin, his everything turns me on. His sex drive however is lower than mine but that's ok just make it more of a thrill when we do get to do it...!!!!

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  • bubbles999katie
    11 years ago

    and yeah i dont think its the most important thing but, i do think it is important in our relationship, in my opinion ;)i got kids and him they are my first priority to take care of not sex with my man lol. After i take care of my kids and there bellies and everything they need and there in bed is when i can give my man some love and attention :)

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    It's somewhat important, but not the most important thing. Our sex drives and energy levels are very different, but I have learned to live with it because I want to be with him.

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  • bubbles999katie
    11 years ago

    I think its very important cause, it releases endorphin makes your husband less grouchy, good work out, and also it keeps your mans mind on you than curiosity on somebody else cause they wouldn't risk with somebody else, if they know they can get it from there woman anytime. I think it also makes a love bond closer between the couple to. (I know in some cases this isn't always true and either gender will be determined to cheat on there spouse :() but in cases where your both on the same page and in love with each other, its good to keep a good sex relationship going also. in my opinion :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      It seems as if you had sex with your husband to keep him, to make him satisfied and as a means to make the love bond stronger between you as a couple. I can see how sex can make your husband happy and sexually satisfied (he is less grouchy as a result, etc.) but I can't see how sex can contribute to your sexual satisfaction (not relationship satisfaction) if there is such a thing.

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      • bubbles999katie
        11 years ago

        Or yeah it makes a good sexual satisfaction also, only if you also receive an orgasm if you don't than it sucks. And hes or she is the only one being pleasured.

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      • bubbles999katie
        11 years ago

        I have no reason to not have sex, and if we didnt have sex we would still have a good relationship, but im a sexy stay home mom of four (done having kids :D phewy! lol) and hes a hard working provider that goes to work and pays for everything. Its a turn on that he works hard for us and i would think that part of my job would be to keep him sexually excited to come home and do something fun and kinky. or he would just be working for a big family that has its big stressed out moments and no release of endorphin's. And isnt it normal for a man to release??? Why not release together and keep the relationship interesting, with road trips, dates, and family activities a long with different sex positions, places, toys ect.? Don't you feel that sex makes you feel good together? I mean its crazy to think that feeling during sex can feel so good and the two of you can do it to eachother along with all the other fun activites and families to go do things with.. Oh yeah it contributes to a relationship bond, unless one or the other in a relationship cant have an orgasm than i can see whats the point. But if the two can do that to eachother its huge in love and relationships. as long as nobodys being in bed selfish lol than sex can be good in relationship. i mean you can even have sexual fights that can cause damper in a relationships, so good sex together can also make a great relationship to.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          You probably don't understand what I asked you about in my previous comment. It seems that you have no idea what I am talking about. You know, some women have individual sexual needs which exist independently of other people or their partners. They desire sex even if their boyfriend or husband is not in the mood and need sex to be SEXUALLY satisfied (I mean SEXUAL satisfaction, not financial satisfaction or relationship satisfaction). Sex is important for them as individuals - not only because it keeps the couple together or because their boyfriend/husband wants it. I mean, even if their boyfriend/husband was fully satisfied without sex and didn't need it at all - they would need it themselves to feel SEXUALLY satisfied and not sexually frustrated. I am asking you about the importance of sex for you in this sense of the word. I mean, if your husband's sexual desire went down to zero - for example for medical reasons, if he didn't feel desire for sex with anyone and if he loved you dearly without it, would you need sex for YOUR OWN satisfaction despite his reluctance? Would you feel independent defire for sex regardless of your husband's desire?

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Its pretty important.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      May I ask why you haven't voted then? (I can see that no woman has voted so far...)

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        Sorry. I hit skip and see results on accident and I can't vote now :( stupid thumbs!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Ermagud if's FOKIN beautiful.

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    Not all that important. Mine and my fiance's sex drives are VERY different, but that's no big deal because I have toys for when he's too tired. I'm happy just being with him.

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    • prasatko
      11 years ago

      Here is a quote from one of your comments in a different thread:
      "...because any GOOD partner would get B in the mood, not just say "HAVE SEX WITH ME I'M WAITING".

      You should know what your partner likes,...:3"

      Why don´t you apply this rule when he is too tired? Aren´t you a good partner?

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      • quentari
        11 years ago

        because there's a vast difference between "I don't feel like it" and him being so tired he's about to fall asleep during dinner.

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