Imagine your partner was unfaithful to you

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If your significant other was unfaithful to you, which scenario below would you find more upsetting? I know that both of them may be bad, but try to choose one of them.

Sexual infidelity scenario means that your partner has enjoyed a sexual affair with someone else (who is of the same gender as you) BUT you are sure that they will not form a deep emotional connection.

Emotional infidelity scenario means that your partner has formed a deep emotional attachment to someone else (who is of the same gender as you) BUT you are sure that they will not have sex.

I´m a man: sexual infidelity would be worse 5
I´m a man: emotional infidelity would be worse 2
I´m a woman: sexual infidelity would be worse 3
I´m a woman: emotional infidelity would be worse 5
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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    I'm textbook male. Sexual infidelity kicks me hardest. If my parter had some emotional feelings for someone else, I could live with that (although I obviously wouldn't be writing a commemorative song about it).

    Women in my past have often been the opposite. It was a real problem if I had an emotional bond with another woman, even if it wasn't a bond that was necessarily sexual and never would be.

    I guess when you get right back to the first principles of mating, it makes sense. Men want to know their offspring is really theirs. Women want to know their men aren't going to abandon them.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    I don't have to imagine it.

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    I'd have to go with emotional infidelity. Thats the thing that invalidates the bonding you have with a partner.

    Sexual infidelity may have the impact of a bomb and shatter the foundation of a relationship so hard nothing salvagable remains...but if the blast is not enough, there may be a option to fix things up.

    Emotional infidelity, on the other hand, will erode that foundation steadily and surely, until everything built upon it will be only an empty shell collapsing onto itself if the slightest pressure is applied.

    In that context, even if i was not pro-open-relationship, i would prefer the sexual infidelity. EITHER we accept it and manage to move on, OR the whole thing comes crushing down right then and there. The emotional one is a slow poison.

    I am aware that "bonding" in a platonic way with an opposite-sex partner is just as "dangerous" of an entrance to this as a random one-night stand would be to the sexual infidelity...
    its also merely my own personal opinion, which, as said, may well be rather biased as i don't live by very traditional values.

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  • zorpoxtheconqueror
    11 years ago

    Weirdly I think emotional even tho I am a guy because then the everything else will be meaning less and be an empty gesture so more as a chore rather it being something you want to do to show you care

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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago

    MUTHAFUCKER!!! I'M GONNA KILL HIM!!! ok, now imma read the poll.

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    • NoraBaker
      11 years ago

      I want to say emotional, always have all my life. Until I finally learned what sexual infidelity feels like. It was so shattering that I started to see platonic relationships and flirting as something desirable, rather than something to avoid. As long as it is not something that replaces or damages the couple's primary relationship, it should be good to keep your loved one's self-esteem up, and you should then benefit from it as well. I'm not quite sure about this, it just occurred to me.

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