Im the ugliest of my sister's

I have 4 other sister's and they are all really pretty and thin. I only have sister's btw. I feel really inferior to them because they are really pretty and skinny and im not, im slightly overweight. They make me feel really low because they exclude me from almost everything they do. They used to have the excuse that i was 2 young to hang out with them but im already 20 yrs old and they still treat me the same. Im very different from them at least in terms of interest, they are all Justin Timberlake loving snobs. They also make me feel horrible cuz they complain that they are fat when they are like 3 pounds overweight, and clearly im like 20 or 30 pounds over but they say "oh your not fat" its stupid. They also have the habit of inviting me places and comepletely ignoring me the whole time, they will all be talking and having fun and ill just be in the corner feeling stupid cuz i wanted to add something to the conversation only to be rudely interrupted by my stupid, superficial bitch of a cousin that always has her nose in the air acting like she's something great, when in reality she looks like a ghetto ass clown with too much makeup and dumb clothes on. Anyway my sister's and cousin have all managed to make me feel pretty low and really inferior to them, they always talk about how dumb my interests are, my music, art, movies all that is stupid to them and sometimes they criticize what i wear cuz im not rich like them and dnt go blow 100 dollars on a freakin pair of jeans. I try to be cool, but they are really getting under my skin and im getting to the point where i dnt want to talk to them or see them again even though at this point thats probably not possible. is it normal :(

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  • MercedesBenz

    No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.

    Go meet people with your interests and have fun with them. Quit trying to live up to your sisters' and cousins' expectations; you only have you to answer for. Assert yourself in your chosen likes, dislikes, and interests. You are not them and do not try to be a clone of them. Be you. You need to bolster your great attributes. Obviously you have let them use you as a whipping post for too long. Don't allow it. If you have to you may have to make remarks like, "Why would you think that is appropriate to say that to me?" Or, "You need to keep your snotty ass comments to yourself because I don't appreciate them."

    Assert yourself as an individual, as an adult. You are 20 years old. Do not be their subject of ridicule. If they treat you like that, have a distanced relationship. Eventually they will respect you for asserting yourself and defining who you are and making those boundaries. And in the end, you will learn to love yourself rather than looking to them for answers on how you should feel.

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    • monkyyy

      "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission. "

      i hate this type of advice, its very easy to lie to urself, but u shouldn't the pain is still there and comes back all at once when ur stressed;
      btw u cant just choose to be happy, or just ingore deep rooted fears, or change over night etc.

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  • CamSB

    hey you look pretty hot to me, hehehe. Ur pretty exotic ;)

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  • theytookthisone

    Seems like youre surrounded by negative people. You should try finding a different group of people to associate yourself with. They are probably just as insecure as you, but their way of fixing that is by putting you down. Screw them, you don't need to be around people that are going to make you feel like crap.

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  • so_damn_unpretty

    i know how you feel. i feel inferieor to my sibblings because i'm the talentless one. growing up my mom bragged to everyone about howe musicly and artiscly talented my sister is (she is now attending a fine arta program) and my dad would brag about how athletic my brother is (who is only 17 but is great at most sports and is being sponsored for skateboarding) and all they could say about me was that I'm really nice or caring (i am now 2o , still havent found anything to be good at and dont really have anything acoomplished) *frown*

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  • squirrelgirl

    I completely understand how you feel. I'm the same age as you, I have 2 older sisters and I feel inferior to them in terms of appearance. My sisters both have pretty faces and my once, ahem, "full-figured" sister has been dumping a lot of weight recently. I've always felt like my face was less attractive then theirs, but now that my one "big" sister has lost weight, I feel like I'm the "fat sister" now.

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  • alv1592

    appearance isn't everything, it's the inside that matters. you sound a lot nicer than they are. and i'm sure you're totally not ugly :)

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  • CountryRoads

    Your sisters don't have to be your best friends. But, they are your sisters. Just don't hang out with them on a BFF level.
    It's normal to be jealous. I'm jealous of my sister's beauty and she's jealous of my intelligence.
    I will guarantee you that they are jealous of you for something.
    Who cares about your weight? They don't. Trust me, that's just you being self conscious. They love you, no matter what you look like.

    It is all in the brain. Just treat yourself right and don't let this get the best of you.
    You can risk shoving them out of your life because of stupid, petty things.

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  • redspark

    Leave em

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    • MartaC

      yeah i think im going to

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  • lefthandedleo

    It doesn't matter how you look to be honest. It doesn't matter how your sister look either. You have to work with what you've got. I've struggled with my weight too, but the only way to fix anything is to actually do something about it. If you're worried about what people think of you, you're most likely wrong.

    Just last week I got the first best compliment on my college campus. A girl said, "You're really pretty. I saw about four guys stare at you since you stood there." And just that day, I felt hideous, fat, and ugly. It's all in the brain.. really. I don't feel ugly anymore. Even if I do, I know that I'm not.

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  • dappled

    For the second time tonight, I agree completely with Mercedes. It's good advice. You should take it.

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