Im super jealous of my boyfriends ex!

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I've been with my boyfriend for a while now & the first few weeks of our relationship , he told me who his ex was. Of course, i knew who she was and i was crazy jealous & shocked. Ever since he told me, i have always looked at her pictures on facebook and instagram & i always compare myself with her which makes me really insecure. i dont know why i do it, yet i still do. i told my boyfriend about it a few weeks ago & he told me some things about their past relationship which made me even more jealous, yet he always tells me he loves me so much & that im the most beautiful girl he has ever went out with. hes told me that he's completely over her , yet i still feel jealous & wish i looked like her. she is crazy gorgeous, but everyone tells me im better. i need some advice on how to stop doing this to myself!

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    11 years ago

    A relationship will not survive if you are insecure.
    You just have to stop doing it. Just stop. If you don't then this will most probably be detrimental to your relationship. It's up to you, give up or ruin your relationship.

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  • Ryan556
    11 years ago

    Dont look at her pictures he says your butiful compared to her
    It could be easier to ask someone (non related or a friend or anything and ask them how looks better

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Despite any advice people try to give you, it's going to go something like this: You're insecure, you torture yourself until you can't take it anymore, you talk to your boyfriend about it, you wonder why that didn't help.., you crumble under the pressure, it doesn't work out. You move on and learn from your experiences.

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  • Sweetgirl75
    11 years ago

    If he says he's over her and wants to be with you now, you gotta believe him. But if it still bothers you alot, maybe you should tell your boyfriend how you feel, that you feel insecure compared to his ex and that you don't do it by purpose but it just happens. I'm sure he will understand and let you know that she's not the one for him anymore and that you are much better. Also you can do something to make yourself feel better, just don't look at pictures of his ex anymore and don't think about her. The most important thing is that you are with him now and she's not anymore. Besides, she must have got disadvantages in her personality as well, nobody is perfect.

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    just focus on the current situation and stop dwelling on the past. It is really non of your business, and neither should it interest you how your BF acted in the past. If you really love him enough to get over your own insecurity you will be fine.

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  • Redcoats
    11 years ago

    Just don't do it. Why do that to yourself if it makes you feel insecure? Forget about her. He's with you, not her.

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