Im so scared of growing up?

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Ive always been a reserved quiet person, im 22 and only just starting to find myself and talk to other people and learning who I am. Ive never had a boyfriend and only recently started going into the clubs with my cousin and her mates. Ive never really had a lot of mates I don't know why but ive never needed them? Maybe im a loner. But now im 22 and losing confidence because im a virgin. I worry everyday about it, and the older I get the worse it will become for people to want me. Guys like experienced girls no?
Another reason im just so worried about sex and having a boyfriend, no idea why because I want a nice bloke and a family but im worried ill never find anyone right for me I feel like an outcast im so reserved and couldn't just kiss a stranger like my mates could.
I feel as though ill never get past kissing and it just all bothers me a lot. Will itfeel right with the right person?
I only feel comfortable around a handful of people, it takes me ages sometimes to feel fully comfortable around them.
Some I just can click with straight away. There was one bloke who was way out ofmy league I was gobsmacked he spoke to me, but I forgot to get his name, but he was just so easy to talk to and usually id be super shy in those situations.

So is it normal to be this worried?
Advise please :(

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  • yu-gi-ohChampion25
    8 years ago

    guys love virgins you sound like a guy being teased by his friends. your a girl so virginity is a good thing

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    • Arm0se
      8 years ago

      You want to tell me what's wrong with a guy retaining his virginity?

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      • strangethingshappen
        8 years ago

        I think because society has always put guys and girls into separate categories relating to being a virgin. Girls- are classed as more superior in most guys eyes when they still have their v plates due to being a guys first, extra tight down there and lastly filling their ego of "conquering a virgin". Its the opposite for the guys though! They are classed as un-cool so to speak, a loser and judged for them not being able to get laid. I guess they see it as a weakness and a game- another notch on their belt sort of thing.

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        • Arm0se
          8 years ago

          That's fucking stupid.

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          • strangethingshappen
            8 years ago

            Tell me about it! This world has a warped perspective

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  • Bake34
    8 years ago

    This is just me... But you need to get out of you're own head. Calm down. Learn to go with the flow, just a little. Let go just a little. People are easy to talk to, generally. Lol. Most people are somewhat friendly. And who says he's out of your league? I hate that phrase. What about him makes him better than you or more worthy?
    What you need to do in your everyday life is embrace how it felt to talk to him and feel confident. People respond to confidence. The fact that you didn't think he should be talking to you in the first place gave you confidence to be outgoing in that instance. You need to capture that and embrace it. And the go with the flow part is knowing things like yes you will meet the right person, yes it will feel right, yes you will be happy, no it's not strange to be having anxiety about where you're at in life. You've put so much pressure on being normal. You are who you are and that's great! Stop worrying so much and enjoy your twenties before it's gone. Good luck. ;)

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    There are many types of men in the world, so don't assume they're all the same.

    Virginity isn't a big deal. Just focus on building your confidence and making new friends. Understand that you don't need to boldly kiss a guy or live a risk-filled life to be more attractive men, because you'll only attract men who like that lifestyle and are unaware that you're just doing it to fit in. Be yourself, and do the things you enjoy.

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  • strangethingshappen
    8 years ago

    You sound exactly like me! I'm same age and a girl. I sometimes have the same worries and lately I have been rather a loner since I lost most my friends and work has taken over my life

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Oh we should chat then and help each other !
      think I need someone similar to talk too :)

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      • strangethingshappen
        8 years ago

        Anytime! I just dont have IIN gold but we can always go on chat :)

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          sounds good !

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    very sweet

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  • TGS.the.chronic.liar
    8 years ago

    Its usually the shy girls that transform into total beasts in the bedroom. So count me in.

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  • Cocomilktitties
    8 years ago

    I personally appreciate when there are girls out there who haven't slept around. Please don't feel bad about that. I mean it would be one thing if you were just wanting to have sex... but to me it sounds like you want a relationship and a deeper connection.

    I also think that when girls are a little shy, it's pretty cute. And I think there are guys out there that agree with me.

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