Im so nervous around my boyfriend

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Iv been friends with this boy since back in pre school. I had a crush on him back then, but i was little, i eventually grew out of it. We are in high school now and just a few months ago he asked me to be his girl friend I agreed, but he had to go away on a trip for a month or two after and we didnt talk at all. Well school is starting again, and we see each other a lot at band and color guard practice. ( lol i know we are losers XD) Well hes really silly and outgoing, and people say I am too, but im ALWAYS so nervous around him! to the point I ignore him almost! Iv never had this problem before we started going out. I know its bad to ignore him, and i feel bad the rest of the day for it, but i cant bring myself to talk to him normally anymore. I just wish he would start a conversation with me first, i usually have to start them. My friends say hes probably nervous too, but if he is, he hides it well. Also, hes one of my best friend cousins, so its really awkward when shes around too.
And one more thing i think I should add is, i dont really find him that attractive, hes not ugly, but not really hot either, I like him for his awesome personality.

im sorry for making this so long! XD i just really feel like i need help!
any advice for a girl new to dating?

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  • Havoc8463
    13 years ago

    You remind me of me. I once had a crush on a girl and i thought she was really pretty and funny. Well i fell for the trap of asking her out online and when we met up i was so nervous i didn't speak a word. The next day she broke up with me.

    So i'll give you my take on it. It's going to be hard to overcome the overwhelming nervous itch you feel when you're with him, the equivalent of pushing a piano up a hill with your willpower. You have to drop the thoughts of what other people think. Also the fact that you are experiencing this nervousness after entering this relationship with him tells me you are buckling under your own expectations of what you have to be in this role which is quite new to you.

    I have two ideas: talk to him about it and revert to a nice friendly standing so you can both enjoy each other's company without the expectations of being in a 'dating' relationship.

    Sit down in a place close to your heart and take a good hard look at your feelings for him and also have a think about WHY you feel nervous (don't be afraid to be brutally honest with yourself). This will hopefully allow you to hit the problem on the head and become more comfortable around him, having accepted your own feelings.

    Hope this helps.

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  • seemae
    13 years ago

    awww dating newbies

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  • karmarainbow
    13 years ago

    cute.

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    • shakalaka
      11 years ago

      Indeed.

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  • harrypotterdork22
    13 years ago

    well, first of all....do u like him? do you want to be in a relationship with him? if so then make an effort.

    youre probably nervous because youve been friends so long u dont wanna ruin it. if he asked u to be his girlfriend that means he likes you. yeah do talk to him and see where you guys stand..
    hope it works out:)

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Yup

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    Yes

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    what is it about him that makes you awkward? you should just relax..he obviously likes you a lot, and you obviously like him too.

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