Im so mad right now!

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So i have been dating this guy for a few weeks and last night he took me out for dinner & drinks .. Everything was going fine until he had few too many drinks and started to talk about my weight and talking about how usually he likes skinny girls but not overweight girls like me , im btw 5'4 144 lbs and i do not consider myself to be overweight. I got so mad that i stormed out . I feel so bad because i really liked him, but i do not want to be involved with a guy that talks like that to me. Is it normal that i stormed out and i dont want to talk to him? Or did i overreact?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    The proper reply would be "I generally like men with lager dicks, but in you case ..."

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    You had every right to be offended by his insulting remarks and to leave. You should be proud for having stood up for yourself. You must not second guess yourself - you weren't the person who behaved badly at all.

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    At least you saw that side of him early on.

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  • emi.l.y
    11 years ago

    Omfg what a bastard! I'd do worse than walk out ! X

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    he showed his superficiality that is the turnoff, he could have said he only usually likes blonds chinese black white or anything , the overweight talk is funny you couldve laughed it off and mentally wrote him off

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    Fuck him, you are not fat. Better to find out he is an asshole now instead of later.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Wow, what a sweet-talker he is! <sarcasm>
    No wonder you walked out on him.

    In all fairness, I do think he meant it as a sincere compliment.

    Try to see it this way: He was admitting that he has been narrow-minded in the past about ladies' figures, but you have such a rockin' bod that he's reconsidered his previous preferences and he's quite excited about it, so excited, he lost track of his manners and told you about it.

    I think you should give him a second chance, since you do like him (but not his behaviour that day). I think you should also tell him the reason why you felt slighted because you do have a right to feel slighted over his bad manners.

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  • iceprincess
    11 years ago

    Thanks for all the advices/comments, just a little update im not going to give him another chance, looks like his rep isnt all that great .. Lol

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  • boehawk
    11 years ago

    I don't understand why people are telling you to give him another chance . It sounded like he truly thinks your fat but is telling you he is welling to over look it ( at least for now ) this is more than likely to be a issue somewhere down the line if the relationship continues . If you give him a 2nd chance don't be surprised when he starts dropping hints about how much better and healthier you'd be if you lost a few pounds .

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  • saddenedunicorn
    11 years ago

    You should be thankful that his ugly true colors showed! He's obviously superficial and won't ever be in a serious relationship. You had every right to feel upset and leave as I'm sure I'd feel the same. 144 is a normal weight for 5'4 and I'm sure you're a great woman so he's the one missing out..not you.

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  • LoveHoran514
    11 years ago

    "Drunken minds speak sober hearts."

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  • nervous1
    11 years ago

    congrats! you have a self esteem! i'm glad dating hasnt beat that out of you. if you decide to give him another chance tell him he doesnt drink well and that he was insensative. and it might go better if he takes it easy when you go out.

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  • OswaldCobblepot
    11 years ago

    That man is a dick.

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  • thanksforthefreecar
    11 years ago

    What a jerk!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You implied he was drunk. People say things they don't mean when they are drunk. It is completely understandable that you left and got offended, just because he is drunk does not mean you have to put up with it. Although, I don't think you should give up on him. Surely everyone that drinks occasionally has had moments when they said things they didn't mean.

    If he had said ths while sober, then he is an ass, but since he was drunk, I think you should understand he most likely did not mean to say what he said.

    In the end, it's your choice, I just think that you might be giving up a good guy due to a mistake that a lot of people that occasionally consume alcohol have to go under.
    For example, wouldn't you think you deserve a second chance if you were drunk and said things you definetly would not of said sober?

    Think about it.

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    • dinz
      11 years ago

      Itduz this probably the first time I have to disagree with your post so my apologies kind sir!

      Being drunk doesn't justify the need to insult another person/s. If that was the case, it could be argued that drunk drivers who caused accidents should not be imprisoned on the motion that they were drunk.

      But I agree, there is always a second chance, the OP does have the ace card in her hands and she will need to use it wisely.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Don't apologize for dissagreeing. I do thing you are wrong myself, but that doesn't mean you're wrong for disagreeing with me.

        I can see your point on the drunk driver part, but I think that the situation is different. I agree completely that saying "I was drunk, it's not my fault I killed that person" is just ridiculous, but they aren't supposed to drive while drunk, where as in this situation they were in a social meeting that did involve alcohol. I definetly think he should of controled his drinking if they were on a date, but I think it is understandable if someone says something they don't mean while drunk.

        I think the situations are different because of the situations. In the car crash, the driver was going against the law of drink driving, but in this situation, drinking was part of the occasion.

        I hope you see my point.

        I think he should be given a second chance, unless him being drunk like that is a frequent accurance, then she shouldn't.

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        • dinz
          11 years ago

          Alcohol may of been part of the occasion but insulting someone isn't.

          That's the problem with today's drinking culture. People have that expectation that one can simply consume so much alcohol that they are not aware of their actions. Whatever happened to responsible drinking?

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          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago

            I think the expression suitable for this is that it's understandable, but not excusable. Basically, you can understand why they said it (drunk), but it is unexcusable, as in it was vile behavior, and if it happens again, then it is a frequent behavior.

            I agree with what you said, but if this was a first time it happened, I think it is understandable? If it happens often, then I would have to agree that he knows what he is like when drunk, yet proceeded to get drunk again, and so he was aware of him being unaware of his insults. (If that makes sense. Lol).

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