Im horrible, i wish i never had my kid

It's tough raising a kid which is why I plan on not having any.

Soooo many mothers feel this way, but not all would admit it. I know I don't want children right now, but I am open to the fact that I might some day. I bet you are a really good mom, but you are depressed about your life, not the life of the child. Now, it might seem like the child made you unhappy, but I'm willing to bet you were already unhappy before. I think you should find a support group, even an internet one, for others. I would suggest a postpartum depression support group because the people would be able to relate to your situation. Take it from someone who knows, going out isn't what it's cracked up to be. You can go out still though. Maybe meet up with other young moms and have a girls night out. You don't have to get trashed and go home with nasty guys. Let loose, dance, have some drinks, get babysitters. That's not being a bad mom. Neither is admitting you need help. It's the responsible thing to do to take care of yourself so you can be a happier woman and a better mother to the one person who will always love you unconditionally- your son.

you are not alone in being broke when the kids come along. i think you are in the majority as far as that goes.

none of us ever really know when we choose a mate if it will be a good or bad, so don't beat yourself up about the first guy.

check out if there are any stay at home moms in the neighborhood that are willing to watch your little one for less than day care costs, or do you have family that could help with that?

things will get easier once he starts school. after school care should cost less. in fact, check out your local community centers, usually partly funded by county taxes. lots of them have programs for reduced rate day care. also, sign up for wic and any other programs you find available. mayby you qualify for food stamps or section 8 housing. there are programs out there to help.

in the meantime, know that you are not a bad mother. you will get through this.

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You're not horrible, if that was the case, you would have already did something about it. You've kept him and even tried asking for help, even if it IS to a random site. I think you are too stressed. It's normal, and keep loving him.

I'm not doing that shut nor do I condone it

Be good to it, it should be rewarding. ESP wen ur old and need taking care of :)

Honestly, I don't envy people who have kids. I am so glad I have really thought through things before doing it. There are PLENTY OF ORPHANAGES where other females have given birth and feel they made a mistake and now the CHILDREN suffer due to their immature and self-centered attitude. There are enough children and people in the world, we already have enough problems with medicine, food, jobs,etc. There is no need to have kids anymore.

Work equally with him then to unwind go to a spa or something once a month or go out with friends to get away

Actually, you are horrible for having a child for immature reasons. This is clearly a big problem in the western world (particularly the USA) these days. However, you are NOT horrible for feeling the way that you do now. You rightly hate yourself as much as everyone else does. Why did you think that you were ENTITLED to have a child just because you wanted one? Now we're all paying his medicaid. Great. I can barely afford my own insurance.

Oh I definatly make sure he is happy and knows he is loved, I never let him see me breakdown.

The main thing here, is, dont take it out on your kid. see that this is YOUR problem, and You have too work threw it BUT NEVER.....take it out on the kid. Good luck to you all

It's normal as a young mom. I have a 5 year old and sometimes question what my life would be like when things get rough. I promise it will get better and when your child gets to school and says mommy look at my good grades, and you get out of the rough patch your in, it will be so rewarding. Parenting is tough, no one taught us that. Just stick with being a mom and take it day by day.

Too stressed doesn't begin to describe it. I think part of the reason I am bothered by everything is the fact that my husband never worries about ANYTHING. We just moved and I founf the cr ins. bill. its due in 6 days, I have no idea where Im gonna get the money to pay it and he just tells me , "don't worry about it," How can people do that?!?! And he really is a great guy and a wonderful dad, he doesn't let our son get away with anything and he is always there to play with him.

Thats fine. There is a lot of parrents this day who wish they could do more for their kids and although it is rather sad, is very true and normal.

Soon, I will be one of those parents so I feel for you as well as myself on this issue. Just do the best that you can with what you have and things should be fine.

You sound kind of overwhelmed. Is your partner supporting you enough? You didn't get pregnant all by yourself! Talk to him.

You have to remember that it's not the child's fault. You should've thought through the decision much more than you did, but since you can't take it back, you have forget your happy past and try to make the present with your child happy. Think of the all the good things in your life, and try to do fun things as a family.

You should not be upset at your baby. He did not take your life away, YOU did. Being a parent is extremely difficult, and people should never have kids without a lot of careful planning. A baby is not like a dog that you can give away or take to the pound. You are in this for life, and you are living for that baby now, not for yourself. Make the daddy help you. Both of you owe it to that small human being to be good and unselfish parents. You should be honored to be raising a human life, not regretting you had it. And if you do not think you can love that baby like he deserves, then you should consider adoption.