Im gay. my frnd is straight. i just envy him so much..yet i love him

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i have a straight male friend...im gay.
hes so hot and so handsome...like if u keep him in thousand guys, all wil pick him to be that good looking..

i fell in love with him(secretely).

but i evny him so much...that i want him so much and his looks ...he gets too much attention from other friends and everyone...hundred of fb likes and cute and handsome and bla bla bla comments..he chats with girls but he dont chat with me...

i asked him to chat with me sometimes..but he says hes too busy. i just cant miss him..i get tired and full of self hate that he ignores me...yet he msgs me sometimes...oneliners...and never says bye....just disappears...which irritates me more...

like dat i was tired...i still love him..but i just envy his looks...i stopped talking to him. no chat. no calls. i even returned a silver braclet he had given me. i dont want that thing if his friendship does not make sense. i just distanced myself from him.

im fed up. dont know wat to do..i secretly save all his watsap pics on my cell. i jus follow his fb posts and save each and every pic of his.. i just cannot get over him..aaauuuuuuuuu.....!!!!!im crying....aawwoooooooouuuuuuu!!!! please help how can i get rid of his feelings..

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  • mikhaildb
    7 years ago

    I can barely understand what you're asking.

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  • _Mehhh_
    7 years ago

    You sound... a lot like me at 16... well until you get to the "save all his photos" part, at which point I'm not sure if you're trolling.

    Anyways assuming you're serious, I'm going to talk to you with tough love as an adult gay man from a place of experience.

    Respect yourself.

    1) He's not your "friend" if he makes excuses not to spend time with you. Fuck him (not literally) and find people who value your time and presence.

    2) There's only one you and you're unique, and until you embrace that you'll struggle making REAL friends and forming REAL relationships.

    3) He's straight, that's just a fact you need to accept for the sake your own mental health.

    4) Getting over him for the sake of your own mental health is more important than getting over him for his sake (although that's still important).

    5) The best thing you can do is get the fuck away from him and distract yourself until you forget he exists.

    6) Doing that, eventually you WILL forget he exists. In another year there will be a new boy on the scene. He will either want to date you, or if he doesn't, you will handle the rejection better because of experience of getting over the first guy.

    Peace

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  • foods-dangerous-to-dogs
    7 years ago

    I have been through something VERY similar. I want to help you heal. Here's my advice for you.

    1. Accept the fact that you got rejected.
    2. Tell yourself you will be okay. There is no reason to think you wont be okay. Dont let this guy ruin your life.
    3. Go to a social event and see what happens. Socialize with a cute boy and see how that goes.

    I'll give you more advice after you try going out to socialize and tell me what happens.

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  • ihateuiloveu
    7 years ago

    just hoped hed make out the differnce between chasing him as a boyfriend and wanting his attention as a friend

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  • ihateuiloveu
    7 years ago

    well i m no mood for any boyfriend now. well i dont like him sexually. and never had any sexual feelings for him. i just loved him purely as a friend. just pure love.

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  • DolphinAngel
    7 years ago

    There are 3 things making this hard...

    1. He is popular, meaning that he gets a lot of attention, primarily from girls I suppose.

    2. He seems to be a shitty friend or simply doesn't consider you as a good friend.

    and most importantly...

    3. He is straight which is a clear indicator for you to give up your hopes.

    I think distancing yourself from him is the best you can do to get over your feelings.

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  • lundi
    7 years ago

    It's not a good idea for a gay to fall in love with a straight guy.

    You two are not close friends so it'll be easier for you to cut him off. Go find yourself something meaningful to do, play sports, go to gym, get some new friends, get a boyfriend... etc. Keep yourself busy.

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  • ihateuiloveu
    7 years ago

    his pics are too cute to delete...yet ill delete..making my heart heavy

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  • ihateuiloveu
    7 years ago

    i think i better get rid of his pics first.

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  • ihateuiloveu
    7 years ago

    ill try my best sir to follow wat you said.

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