Im falling for my boyfriends best friend what to do ...

I think your libido is kicking into gear. Use this to your advantage and enjoy. There is no reason to tell the friend, that will likely scare him away and potentially ruin his relationship with his partner. But you and your boyfriend can easily play with these thoughts. Don't repress these thoughts. Sexual repression isn't fun for anyone. I'm not saying you should cheat, just go ahead and let your imagination run wild. No reason to physically or emotionally involve the friend.

After you do anything. 1st think about your children and his family. My advice for you is just let them just the way they are. And if your boyfriend's bestfriend ask you to go out with him or have sex with you. refuse it.The decision is in your hands.be a smart mom to your kids.

@ Zoroaster , thats basically what im doing .. just limiting contact .. its hard but i assume its just a phase like MichelleZB said its probably normal after a decade of dating someone .. thanks for the advice :)

This is totally normal for someone who's been in a relationship for a decade! It's normal to have sexual or romantic feelings for other people.

It doesn't necessarily mean there's something "wrong" with your current relationship or that you don't love your boyfriend anymore. It just means you're human.

You can:
1) Be in a monogamous relationship, which means that when you get these types of feelings, you can just enjoy your crush but not act on it.
2) Be in an open relationship, which means that when you get these types of feelings, you can act on them and have a little fun. This second option takes some sensitivity and lots of communication to work, but it can work for many couples.

Good luck!

I thought trying to come up with an appropriate response lol but still dunno lol i just know I feel incredibly bad for the boyfriend of ten years....no sympathy for you though...hate sounding harsh but i dont buy the "love" thing...it just sounds like classic selfishness, an impulsive feeling because you looking at him in that way even though your with someone....sorry but it ain't normal...it's also very wrong too, no matter how many people will try to justify it for you..

Ofc my opinion if Rly biased as well because I've dealt with this situation first hand already...

i think you should go for it too have hot sex but stay in your relationships no need to breakup families but you can still have your dessert on the side just be sure that he really likes you back in that way if not it could get real rocky

This is such a tricky situation, and there is no easy answer. You could try trying to find faults with your visiting friend, but if you are actually falling in love with him this won't work... You know him very well, so I am wondering if you are falling in love. I reckon it is mutual too, going by his behaviour change when you were alone. It is really amazing how people can pick up on another's vibe and also how things can change after all these years of friendship... Good luck with navigating this one... xx

just to clear things up .. yes he is only my boyfriend and father of my children .. and i dont think marriage is important thats same for him we can live together all our lives without getting married .. lots do ..

and no i dont think my man is a bad person i just have feelings for his friend but im sure it will go away ..

i doubt hes aware cause i dont act any different since ive felt this way ... im thinking it could just be cause weve been spending more time with him and its just a friend feeling but im getting confused with myself ..

i dont want to cheat and wont but you know how it is when you see something else you want you lust for it doesnt mean your gonna go out and buy it though ..

thanks for the advice its basically what ive been telling myself .. :)

so the person you got isnt good enough i see well apparently your boyfriend should know and he would be pissed

I think he meant BEFORE you do anything, think about your children and boyfriend. Though I wonder why you haven't gotten married if you have children with this man. My advice would be to try repressing the feelings you feel because NOTHING good will come of this. If you hook up with your b/f's best friend, than you risk losing your man and possibly your kids, as well as ruining HIS marriage. It's normal to feel like you do, but it is NOT normal to act on those feelings.

You only have one life so i say if you want something go and get it, you can play happy families and have hot sex with the man you fancy and nobody has to know.