Im afraid of men.....when we argue

That is very normal for abuse victims. I suggest you seek counseling. Get some help.

... when i argue with my gf, or with anyone, i go crazy, but i wouldnt hit anyone ever, unless they start it :P

Your dad isn't a man for hitting a women.

I HAVE kinda the same issue but its both my mom and dad. I flinch just by the sight of a hand comming up close to me... Its so embarressing

my dad used to hit me when i was a kid too but i dont think less of my husband because of it. i know that my husband would never hit me in an argument and we have had some full on arguments where i have wanted to hit him but its only because of the frustration you feel when you feel like you are talking to a wall. you should tell your partner that your dad hit you and when you argue, you get scared and try to talk to each other and not yell at each other in arguments / heated debates. he might get offended because it would seem like you dont trust him but just reassure him that its your fears and has nothing to do with trust issues. im sorry that your dad hit you.

I know it's difficult but unless someone actually hits you, I think you have to trust that they're not going to hit you. If you genuinely believe you may get hit, then you're probably with the wrong person.

Well if your father ever hits you again, I would suggest you think about prosecuting him. Just because he is your father, does not make it acceptable to hit you. As for your relationship with your partner, you can always talk to them about your feelings. A

That's terrible hun. Not all men are like that though.

Only spineless assholes hit women who don't deserve it.

Hit him back