Im afraid of asking girls numbers.

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Im fraid of asking Girls number. And no, it is not because i am afraid of rejection, or even by nervousness. It is simply because i am afraid of once i get the Girls number, i am so confused how to follow up. I will admit it that i am a Little insecure when it comes to breaking barriers and clearing my intentions, because many of my friends girlfriends has described me as " A really sweet guy, but i dont see him as a boyfriend material " Nothing to cry about of course, i am willing to learn what i am doing wrong that gets me friendzoned and how to prevent it. I dont feel comfortable speaking about this with anyone. That is why i want to know how i should flirt by phone, irl or whatever. Any help is appreciated! :)

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    You don't have to wait any certain number of days. Text her when you want. If that's 4 or 5 hours after you've obtained her number, that's fine.

    Just talk to her casually. Don't be dirty or perverted when you first meet someone. Start by: "Hey, what's up?" or "Hey, it's Robert. What are you up to?"

    When she answers, follow up with a question or friendly joke. If she says she's watching TV or Netflix, ask her what show she's watching. If she's at work, ask her what her work consists of. If she's in college, ask her what she's studying. It will start feeling more natural after a while.

    If you feel like your text convos are somewhat good, go ahead and ask her out. "Do you wanna go get together and see a movie this weekend?" or "Do you wanna go jogging with me in the park tomorrow morning?" or "Do you wanna grab lunch at so and so's on Thursday?" Find out what she's into though. If she doesn't like physical activities, then you probably wouldn't want to ask her to go hiking or jogging with you.

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    • Robert94
      9 years ago

      Makes sense, thank you! :)

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      Yo gurll, how you doing? I wanna git yo Sleep Number gurll, so i can make sho yo com-fer-table. Yeaaah i got dat sleep number bed gurl, you look lika 69... im a 96 but dats cuz i do it weird

      Example of what not to do^^

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      • Parky_Parker
        9 years ago

        I have a feeling you've tried that before...

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        • shuggy-chan
          9 years ago

          Not with any seriousness, that just be acting silly, with is like 75% of the time

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    So... Give the girl your number then...Problem solved, if she is interested she can call you.
    You're welcome.

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    • Robert94
      9 years ago

      Btw if i give my number to her, should i text/call her first?

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      • wistfulmaiden
        9 years ago

        Id leave it up to her. Hint: I got a number from a guy and I called him first(always call never text first). I ended up married to said guy.

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    • Robert94
      9 years ago

      You mean the one with a boyfriend? Nah, that only leads to trouble! I rather stay out of Girls with boyfriends, i´ve seen how Girls who has boyfriends but talks with other dude at the same time can lead to, and it is never good!

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      • wistfulmaiden
        9 years ago

        You only know she has a boyfriend if she tells you.
        Ask her up front if she is involved.

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        • Robert94
          9 years ago

          In real Life of course

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        • Robert94
          9 years ago

          She told me when i asked her number, she said: I have a boyfriend :P

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          • wistfulmaiden
            9 years ago

            I see. Well there are plenty of other girls or maybe she will break up. Unless a person is married or engaged they are still kind of "available".

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  • nop1234
    9 years ago

    Man, if she gives you her number, she knows damn well why. Call/text her up and set up a date shortly afterwards.

    Here's the thing: if you act like a nice guy/friend then you'll be seen as a friend. If you act boldly, with courage as an alpha that fucks a lot of chicks, then they'll see you exactly as that.

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  • Thatguy777
    9 years ago

    The real struggle is when you know a girl has a boyfriend and you don't know how to get her number without her thinking you're interested in her..

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    • Robert94
      9 years ago

      It´s funny that you mention that. Yesterday i was gonna buy some coffee, and suprisingly enough a girl that used to work at a candy shop now works at the coffee shop. She was like : hey i remember you, and i said i remembered her. While we were talking i recalled i Always had a feeling this girl was just waiting for me to ask her number or something, dont ask me why but she Always subtly showed those signals. I never asked though because i wanted to see if she had the balls to actually make a move, which she never did of course.

      So when i was at the cofee shop yesterday, i was like: Hey can i get your number? She said; I already have a boyfriend. So i said like; Yeah okey, see you later.

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  • Holzman_67
    9 years ago

    Hey man if you get the number to begin with that's a fairly large part of the bridge crossed, then if she msgs back there's another fairly large part crossed. She is interested just have to kindle that flame. Use humour and wit don't overstep the line. Keep questions simple and direct. Be confident. Allow her time to talk about herself and act genuinely interested in what she has to say.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    Most guys like to wait 3 days for a call back. I wait a week.

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  • dasugaknows
    9 years ago

    Just dont hold back. When the girl gives you her number, text her. She knows damn well why you asked for her number and shes expecting you to get in touch with her. its up to you to make that move. I would say wait a day or two before u reach out.

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    • Robert94
      9 years ago

      I know that. What i was asking about is how to write in order not to get friendzoned " making the intentions clear " so to speak. ´Do i need to speak Dirty? Do i need to ask her what she is wearing all of a sudden? The thing with me is i´ve never had any success so im very confused how to operate in order to make her feel jittery. It is very difficult for me crossing that barrier!

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      • dasugaknows
        9 years ago

        No you do not need to speak dirty to her. Just talk to her like a friend, like you would anybody else and then ask her if she would want to go to dinner or to a movie or something. That is asking her out on a date. If shes not stupid, she will understand the intention which is that you want to get to know her better and spend some time alone with her.

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        • Robert94
          9 years ago

          Just like that, no touching, no breaking physical barriers or being just really suggestive? I apologize for asking so confusing questions, but i´ve Heard so many different thing from different sources. Im just stuck in the middle!

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          • dasugaknows
            9 years ago

            Thats up to you and it depends how well your date is going. As far as talking goes, girls love to talk, so being a good listener goes a long way. I am assuming you are really young so dont take your young friends and their gfs advice because they dont know what they are talking about and they too have a lot to learn. Be engaging toward the woman, ask her questions, let her talk, show her a good time and just be casual about it. When the time to break the physical barrier comes, you will feel it and then just go for it. You will see that, as time goes on, you will be more confident in this situation.

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