Im 18 and i have a huge intimacy problem!!! help!!!!

ok well this is what you need go to a bar get wasted and pick out the first average looking joe you see and do him trust me its going to work :)

No big deal, you'll mature into the ability to be close to someone. Sounds like you need to get to know yourself before you let someone else in.

i dont know if ur either afraid of relationships, think their never gonna work out or u may be gay but dont know it. its normal to me. dont take any of this as an insult cuz its not intended to insult u

My wife was the same until she met me.

Hi ho. Hi ho. It's off to therapy you go, dududededududee

(I'm citing a song not calling you a ho!)

Maybe you are into chicks! You are a lesbian!$!

You are still young. Remember that. Even if you don't feel like it now. I did the same thing at 18. Untill I was 23. Then I met my husband and I no longer wanted to run. There is nothing wrong with you. Just enjoy your life and try not to lead people on. Don't get into relationships if you know you are going to be unhappy and run.

Have you any trauma in your past, perhaps a mistreatment of someone who was / is close to you? I'm 18, had HUGE intimacy problems as well.... Finally talked to my therapist about it and realized it's because whenever I'm close to a guy, I revert back to my mindset as a kid when a family member betrayed my trust and was sexually innaproprate. My best advice it to talk to a therapist, because unless your resolve the issue it'll be there your whole life.

I have the same issue. Any time that I am attracted to a boy I have this intense urge to get to know everything about him. I love to joke around and we usually hit it off perfectly. I just have a huge intimacy problem. I am not affectionate at all, and I tell myself that I would be completely satisfied just being friends with him, and it never goes any further. Although, I sometimes think about how much I'm missing out on. I would like to connect with someone on a more romantic level someday, haha. You know, just to experience it.
Another problem I have is that I am not impulsive or spontaneous enough when it comes to relationships. If I acted how I felt when I felt it there wouldn't be a problem. Instead I hold myself back trying to get a feel for the kind of person they are, and by that time I've convinced myself not to do anything.

iv made plenty of stupid decisions in my time involving relationships, to be honest i wish i had never got into them and just stayed single, cos all they did was mess me up.
just take it as it comes, eventually u will come across someone that u feel comfortable with and wont mind them being emotinally close to ya.
good luck

Maybe your Dad is also letting you know not to freak out about it all that much. 18 is young. You just aren't emotionally ready for a big deal relationship - it is not in your comfort zone. So relax.

PS - Don't young people just date anymore without all the emotional & sexual baggage? Well, maybe that never was the case. I dunno...

Intimacy problems usually stem from a fear of rejection. Maybe a past boyfriend humiliated you, or maybe your dad has brought you up to think that sex is something to be ashamed of.

Whatever the problem, it's not going to go away by itself. It may sound a bit daunting, but you need professional help. You're at the age now where you'll want to start exploring sex and stuff, and if you don't fix it now, you'll kick yourself 10 years down the line. You'll think 'sh*t, I missed-out on so much'

This gut feeling...is it because you're afraid of failure or disappointment in the relationship?