Iinto have breakfast with my child's mother, when i have a girlfriend?

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My boyfriend told me he had went out to eat with his child's mother without their child there before coming to see me. I told him that I didn't like that and thought it was disrespectful twords our relationship. He says my feelings are wrong because she wasn't even really an ex and that they had no real relationship together ever other than their child. I said maybe it would have been different if their child was actually there. He says he wants to stay on good terms with her for their child's sake and that he cares for her as his child's mother and nothing more. But I feel like he's brushing my feelings on the matter to the side like they don't matter. We are on the verge of a breakup because of this. Is it normal for him to do something like this?

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Based on 33 votes (23 yes)
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  • charli.m
    7 years ago

    Ever thought that sometimes things need to be discussed without the child around?

    Curb your jealousy or grow up. You have a choice as to whether to continue this relationship. Presumably you knew about the child prior to being in the relationship. If you don't like him being a responsible parent, what does that say about you?

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  • Murun
    7 years ago

    They have a child together.. That is a lifetime connection you'll have to get used to.

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    You have been with him for two months, of course you shouldn´t see his kid ... I´m glad to hear there are some responsible parents left.

    This said ... I´d dislike it too and I honestly think he should have told you about it before or even suggest that the three of you have dinner, after all you will likely become a part of their childs life so it would be in the mothers interest to meet you as well.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    7 years ago

    So what should I do?

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  • Lilwhiteguy
    7 years ago

    You haven't been with him long enough to fully trust him or know what his long term goals are so your feelings are normal. Fighting with him about it won't fix anything though.

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  • funlovingbitch
    7 years ago

    No way that's as good as cheating going on a date /a meal with someone else I would be kicking him out

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    7 years ago

    Lmao, I like how blunt you guys are about this. If I am in the wrong then how should I make up for being so selfish?

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    • charli.m
      7 years ago

      ...by not being a whiny bitch?

      Could you really not work that out?

      How long have you been with this guy and how serious is your relationship? If you're in it for the long haul, can behave like a responsible adult and are going to be a part of the child's life, then perhaps you could ask to be included in such meetings. But I don't get any indication you are about this child, or, in fact, anyone but yourself.

      Just out of curiosity, why does your title indicate you are the father, while the text describes you as the father's girlfriend?

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        7 years ago

        We've been together 2 months now. & that's just the best way I could think to word it to get an accurate vote. He says he doesn't want to just introduce them to anybody.

        I also don't know how you could just jump to that conclusion based off of one thing I wrote in one scenario of my life. Judgmental much? I'm clearly asking because I do care and needed some insight, not to get verbally jumped.

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        • charli.m
          7 years ago

          Then that is too early, and he's quite right.

          As for your second paragraph...did you even read what you wrote?

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  • tittle
    7 years ago

    It's totally normal. You're not the centre of the universe. Stop being so selfish. OR go out with a guy that doesn't already have commitments

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    It is normal for him to do this but he should've told you first.

    What he's saying is true it is important to stay on good terms but your feelings are valid he should've talked to you first.

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