Iint get used by your friends and not get anything in return?

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I always am here for my "friends" when they need help, advice, a place to crash, a ride, a few bucks, something to eat, ect. and when I am in need of advice, help or anything, they are nowhere to be found. Invisible friends. but as soon as they need a favor they are right back again? why do they treat me this way and how can I change this and make true friends?

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Based on 48 votes (24 yes)
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  • looneypride
    14 years ago

    Thanks to both of you and you are right, I have been forward with a few of my friends and they have treated me better, and if they don't then it's better to have lost a bad friend than to keep pretending! :D thanks

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Yeah - I agree with Jen. Be straight with them - you are not a door mat - and at the same time, look for new friends.

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  • 3nikki
    14 years ago

    Lose them they are not your friends

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  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    They treat you that way because you've always allowed them to, and because they're shitty friends. Next time one of them needs something, tell them, Look, I'd help you but you're never here when I need you. Maybe they don't realize the way they act and need someone to tell them directly.

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  • looneypride
    14 years ago

    thank you so much! :) i hope to find a good friend too. most of the friends i have now are broke, carless and unmotivated to change their situation. so they rely on me! ahhhh :) i will find a true friend!

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  • Addydas
    7 years ago

    It's not normal for proper friends to do this. Lot of good comments already on this.

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  • jsnpq
    7 years ago

    Your a sucker with low self esteem and have a bunch of parasites sucking you dry, stop being generous to them, make good friends and this time don't be too generous to them. Learn to say no.

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  • nakedman
    10 years ago

    A) there not ur friends

    B) quit helping them and see how they like it

    C) wat am i meant 2 answer at vote thing?

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  • jermath35
    12 years ago

    This is society nowadays! Gimme more gimme gimme more!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    get some new friends... their idiots, just leave them

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  • Godiva
    13 years ago

    I agree with what's been said before. They are not your friends. Is it possible that you don't really like them, only the idea of them that is in your head? But if you care about them anyway the best what you can do is to confront them. If they are not willing to see the problem at all or they promise you they'll try harder but they don't just "dump" them. You don't need such people and i don't think you want them. I have to say however that a confrontation of any sort usually doesn't work as you want your friends to care about you without you reminding them to do so.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    totally, i use my friends whenever i need them then throw them in the fucking trash when im done with them

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  • cgirl123456
    14 years ago

    You will find better friends. Your friends sound immature jerks!

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    • looneypride
      14 years ago

      thanks!:D well i try to help my friends through their troubles and make them happy, but then i go through something and they could care less! i am going to church now where i hope to find true friends!

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  • knockout
    14 years ago

    Sorry. They're not true friends. They're only your friend to get what they want. Let's say if they begged at your doorstep to borrow $100, you would probably comply. No matter how much you beg, they wouldn't return it. Simply, they're very selfish.

    To make a true friend, try talking with people you see at school. Maybe they pass by you in the hall a lot. Maybe they sit next to you in math. I think it would help give you a chance to find a real friend.

    Good luck in finding a good friend! :)

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  • smbdy09
    14 years ago

    Yeah, it's good you did something.
    And be sure to confront anything like that in the future, because that's not really friendship--it's just you spilling yourself for a bunch of boon companions.
    In the meantime, be wary of who the true friends are.

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