Iinl to actively not want to form close friendships with people?

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I used to have many many close friends. However, after having felt many times that trust has been broken, I feel like there isn't much point in either a) creating strong friendships or b) keeping strong friendships.

The reason why I've decided to not form close friendships is because I tend to be incredibly attached to people; by not forming friendships, I won't be attached, hence pre-emptively preventing something that won't happen.

I've always heard of people who can't make good friends, but that isn't my problem. I make friends incredibly quickly, regardless of their gender, age, background, and so on, so I'm not whinging on whether is it normal to have few friends. I'm just wondering is it normal to actively not want to have good friends?

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Based on 8 votes (7 yes)
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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    I find my close friendships happened by accident. I didn't mean to establish the bond, it just happened. I don't try to make friends, it just happens.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I feel you there. It sounds to me like you've been hurt one too many times.

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  • RainbowDischarge
    9 years ago

    Real life friends can be exhausting.

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  • 213
    9 years ago

    It is very normal

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    Normal. I just don't want to make any new friends. Had that thought when I started school in August as well but I got to know some people and of course drama had to occur from one of them and now there's no way to get rid of said person in a proper way since we hang out with the same crowd. Would have been much easier if I had just sticked to myself.

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