Is it normal you feel like theres not a lot of hope to find out who you are?

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What do you guys suggest to find out who you are? I know it takes time, and people go through alot til they accept themselves. But what if you accept yourself for like a week and go back to acting different for everybody else because you are vulnerable and again feel like you are not good enough for that situation/person? The best thing to do is know how to be you to the best you can, but what if youre vulnerable and it goes away fast? What should you do or what could it be,besides being vulnerable,that is preventing you from being you? You want to be the best period. Whatever is better than the other is what you wanna be. Unfortunately, thats sorta what stops me from being me and accept it because i want to feel satisfied that im the better one for that situation whether its a certain group of friends, a partner, etc. and i dont like it! Its just in me and i wanna change it! I wanna be me and not be the best but ok with it because being me is the best i can do but im never satisfied. What can I do to stop this and what could it be causing it? Maybe, in general, you should stop watching tv, hangin out with those particular people, stop going to wherever, etc.

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    I see myself a cool kid in my head but when i look in the mirror I hate it.
    I don't know what to do.
    I hate the way I look.
    Absolutely hate it.
    I'm 19 btw.
    Yuck.
    :/

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  • Other09
    13 years ago

    I feel the same way. I will go for about a week or two feeling confident in myself, but the next week I will have none at all. I tend to hide away and not socialize almost at all when I feel like this. It's depressing, because I know no matter how good I feel one week, the next it will probably be all gone.

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  • xebx
    13 years ago

    yeaahh normal...some people really know who they are at any agee..well an old enough age to actually know their likes and dislikes..hobbies an dwaht nott..

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  • Sil3nt_The_Apathetic
    13 years ago

    Didn't bother reading, Soz.
    Sounds like a grade A, midlife crisis to me. Go take out a bunch of loans, grow your hair out (if you can), buy yourself a red or yellow Corvette (any convertible will do)... And now, the most **IMPORTANT** <-- See the asterix? They mean VERY IMPORTANT! Drive around your town/city/mall/whatever with your top down, listening to Creed, and peeling out of every driveway you see. You'll feel better.. Atleast until you have to pay those loans back. :)

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  • pcriminal
    13 years ago

    Sounds like you already know what it takes. Also, you focus too much on "finding" yourself. At your age I suggest you spend more time defining yourself instead of finding. If being great is what you desire, then be great. People who need to find themselves are the ones who didn't work hard enough at defining in the first place.

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  • luicyyou
    13 years ago

    dEEP
    ♥

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    when you have found yourself, youll realize that no one person is better than the other. you are you and they are they. and thats the way its supposed to be. sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes
    you’re behind…the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with
    yourself. Maybe you are hanging out with the wrong crowd, try making new friends and doing different things. its all about the journey. and the fact that you are even asking this question is hope that you will find yourself. those that never seek are the ones that will never find.

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