Is it normal women are threatened by me and verbally attack me?

48% Normal

Once again I am seeking help from the wise is it normal crowd.

Please help! I am a good looking woman, intelligent, humorous with a good body (I am not ordinarily vain, but wanted you to see the whole situation). I try to be kind and responsive to people, women and men.

Since I was about 23, women have been difficult towards me, and I can't keep friendships. When I was young, I had many friends, and I came from a family of all sisters. At the same time, my sisters began to treat me the same way.

Women seem threatened by me, act hostile whenever I say things, compete with me, act superior, and try to prove they know more about anything I say than me. No matter how honest and strong hearted I try to be, they seem hostile. I do not act proud, and never say anything to insult or hurt them. I have never done anything deceitful to deserve this.

Some women hate me when they first see me, before I have said anything, and they do not know anything about me. They don't give me a chance. So it's not my personality.

I have been the victim of unfair and untrue gossip which has almost destroyed my career, and has hurt my young children.

I do not dress for attention. Not in sexy clothes, my hair is not bleached or permed (I am a brunette), I wear stylish but comfortable clothes, and I wear very little make up.

I have become resentful now, and really do not want to be friends with any woman I have met. I would like to forgive and forget, and move on, but then the next woman I meet behaves the same way.

Men on the other hand are my friends. We laugh and enjoy each other. I do not flirt or come on to other women's men in any way, and the men I am friends with are single.

What could I be doing to make women act this way?

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48% Normal

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Stand2260by

8 years ago

Don't fake it just be who you are (angry,sad,.....)anything yell if you want cry if you want just don't keep it inside try to be your self because only ppl how loves you as you are will stay forever (I think.)oh and fuck haters

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Maybe I am a little guarded after being traumatized by this. You are right. Thank you.
  
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  - Annie2000
    
    8 years ago
    
    Best advice from Stand2260by. If you read my comment above I too had a trumatizing experience dealing with such wicked, flat out evil, whorish types who packed together like a bunch of estrogen crazed wolves. Where are they now? Probably unhealthy and miserable, probably still single too or soon to be divorced. It is the complete opposite for me, and that's sometimes what people envy too, your potential and where you are going. Still, just being yourself is the best freedom ever given. 20% is my guess, will love you no matter what.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      True. But I was fired from my job because of illicit gossip. I also have a difficult time finding playmates for my children because women will not let me in their cliches. My life has been affected on a deep level.
      
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  - Stand2260by
    
    8 years ago
    
    Yeah!!!!
    
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[Old Memory]

8 years ago

It is hard to say without really knowing you. If every woman you come across treats you this way it's either out of their own insecurities or you could even be putting off some type of vibe that warrants there reaction to you. Like I said it is really hard to say.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  What could the vibe be? I live in a more rural area than where I grew up. Maybe I am acting to cityish? But I really try not to act superior or snobbish in any way.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    8 years ago
    
    I have a look on my face most of the time that makes me seem like an unfriendly person. I have had several people say they thought I looked like a bitch and thought I was before they started talking to me. It's hard for me to make an observation about you or explain why that's happening without knowing you or observing your general demeanor and behavior. My general experience with women and the work place is they tend to be competitive with other women that work with them. That might be some of it.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      This might be part of it. Thank you.
      
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      - Annie2000
        
        8 years ago
        
        If you smile more they will hate you more. Smile more, instead, to build trust with others who's trust you can gain, but don't do it to try to make those flesh eaters like you. Just stay away from them.
        
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donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

8 years ago

cause womens brought up and encouraged to be insecure irrational childish princesses these days

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NeofelisNebulosa

8 years ago

I find it hard to believe that every other woman dislikes you. Either you're a huge bitch and are unaware of it, or you're paranoid and you're imagining this.

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- Annie2000
  
  8 years ago
  
  It would not be every woman but more than you care to have to deal with. What she is saying she is dealing with is true. Work place bullying is 80% more likely to be woman on woman. The key is to not be in the bucket with all the crabs. Just ignore the little hussies and yes, the gossip can harm your career, but only temporarily. Eventually people will see the kind of person you are and start noticing how those adult girls are obsessed with you, and it will be obvious to all. It gets easier the higher up you get (fewer riff raff) and the older you get (ie, less attractive). I rarely have such issues now but I did once in my 20s, and the men flirted with me like crazy, which I ignored, and there were women in their 30s who hated me for that, as I had no dealings with them, and yet they turned an entire organization on its head because of their obsession with me. I thought it was racism, now I think it was their frustration with sexual competition, as I was married and getting all this spotlight, and they were single and less attractive, less liked and respected.
  
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GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

8 years ago

Fact. Women hate anyone women prettier then themselves.

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- Annie2000
  
  8 years ago
  
  Are you a woman or a man observing? I am a woman and have never hated anyone, especially for something like that! If anything, I keep a special lookout for our young pretty ones --make sure they are not being bullied. Being attractive does not mean you have magic powers that help you to never get your feelings hurt. It's like people think that a young attractive person should take abuse, as some sort of penance for her god given talents and beauty. You know what that kind of thinking that is, pure shameful enviousness.
  
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howard2015

8 years ago

females are bitches. It is like they never grow up when they get together with other females. I have an old girlfriend who is hated by other women simply because she is lovable by guys. She is easy to talk to and fairly attractive.

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bucho's_butt

8 years ago

Do you have a very cutesy kind of charm about you that guys flock to? I knew a girl like that and she told me women absolutely loathed her. She could only make friends with guys. You might just have to do the same.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yea. Maybe I try too hard. Thanks for the input.
  
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  - Annie2000
    
    8 years ago
    
    Please be yourself!! I have a "cutsy" personality too, and big deal, everyone has their own unique way. You will go so much further than those hateful hags. Just trust me, be yourself and do the things you are good at and enjoy. When you inspire so much envy it is because others see your potential and are threatened by it.
    
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januarycurse

8 years ago

classic case of paranoia

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Ahhh,no.
  
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NathanScot

8 years ago

Hmm,...send me a full picture of urself.Lets see what is this that has got other women gutted bout u.

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Quintarius

8 years ago

Its probably because you are better looking than them. However, i always steer clear of girls who say they prefer a bunch of guy friends rather than girl friends. They tend to be the kind of girls who sleep with the whole football team... Just sayin'

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I have never slept around. I have never had a one night stand. It could be that they think I am better looking, but aren't there a lot of good looking women in the world? Do women treat all good looking women like this?
  
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  - Quintarius
    
    8 years ago
    
    Well i am a guy but i do know that if a girl says she has only been with 2 partners, it really means more like 20. So i dont believe you for a second that you havent "slept around" if what you say about having a bunch of single guy friends is true
    
    Good looking girl + bunch of single guy friends = (fill in the blank)
    
    In any event i do believe it is normal for girls to be jealous and catty. They can be real bitches even to other girls. Just the way of the world i guess.
    
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    - Annie2000
      
      8 years ago
      
      You are right about the perception I think. It's not possible to hang out with a lot of guy friends without them all thinking about having sex with you. Best to have a few good friends (both genders) and be weary of felines, the special kind of girl (ie late 30s, divorced and single, party girl) and her stooges (the co-dependant men who worship at her claws).
      
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