Is it normal women are so cold and heartless?

She's not beholden to return your feelings. I personally wouldn't have let you spend money on me if I wasn't interested nor would I let you spend much if any money if I was interested, but just because she did doesn't mean she owed you anything.

Not all women will be interested it doesn't mean all women are cold. Not all men would be interested in me.

I think the fact that she slapped you was NOT okay though.
I think she should have left it a nonphysical confrontation unless she was slapping you in self-defense. Pulling away and saying she wasn't interested would have been enough. I don't think hitting people is okay unless it's in self-defense.

Overall, you sound like you feel this woman or maybe any woman in general you're interested in and that you spent money on or time with should be interested. If I'm misunderstanding that sorry, but if you feel that way, it's not normal

So you treated her like a friend and you think she owes you a relationship or sex? Is that how you treat your male friends too?

You didn't spend time with her out of interest in the person she is, you spent time with her because you expected sex from her.
You justified those thoughts by spending money on her to create the illusion to possible competition that you two are in a relationship and, thus, warding them off.

The slapping and spitting is what I have a problem with. I don't feel like it's ever appropriate to hit another person unless you really have no alternative. So the slapping depends on what exactly happened.
The spitting was completely uncalled for and downright trashy. You should've given her a Batista Bomb right then and there.

On a serious note - you really need to work on bettering yourself as a well-balanced person. It's not good to act on impulse if that would entail you crossing a line that never needed to be there in the first place. If you really spent time and effort to get to know her, you would've known that she wouldn't have liked that

Basically, you're desperate and sick with Nice Guy Syndrome (NGS).

Niceness =/= Relationship.
Money can not buy genuine affection.
Friendship isn't a stepping stone into a relationship.

If you keep using money and friendship to get a relationship, you're going to end up being used by girls who know you suffer from NGS and just lead you on until you're tired of spending money and want more.

Just be honest and direct. If you find a girl attractive, just be honest before it goes any further. If she doesn't like you, then that's okay, just move on.

i don't know everything that happened but honestly you sound kind of desperate.

How could she be so Dr. Evil, she bringin out a side'a you dat you don' know

Don't bother with her again. Delete her number and never bother contacting her. She clearly has emotional and/or maturity issues. Don't waste your time on some idiot who just wants a "friend" yet sees nothing "wrong" with encouraging boyfriend like behavior from you when it benefits her.

I'll get down voted or outright insulted for my comment. The modern woman is not worth chivalrous treatment, if you want actual success with women (i.e. getting laid) don't be accessible to her and act as if you are doing her a favor by spending your valuable time with her.

Regain your self worth as a man and put your own interests first. Enjoy your life and don't worry about her.

I know this sounds terrible to do, but it will work. Personal observations don't lie. If you find you can't be a "dick" to them, still focus on yourself first. Don't let your own self worth depend on some woman's fickle emotions.

She was using you. But how could you not see that right away? Usually if there's nothing physical after date 2 or 3, then nothing will ever happen. Next time just be up front and tell the gal what you want.

So just because she doesn't feel about you the way you want her to, that makes all women cold and heartless?

You need to grow up and accept that giving is an end in itself, not a guarantee you'll get what you want from someone else.

So you grabbed a spoon that fell and you decide to put your wet lips on her. I think she acted appropriately. You can't go around putting your mouth on everyone at random times whenever you feel like it

Why do you mention time and money?? Sound like a jerk that was expecting something from her. If you do those things it should be because you want to. Serves you right I say

I have friends like that. Both woman and men are like that. Most girls will be fake and use you. Some just have bad PMS or irritability. I would know because I'm a girl -.-

Sounds like you rushed things. Also being to nicey nice may not be what she wants. Try someone else.

Men use women for sex. Women use the temptation of sex to rob men of their money, time, and interest. It's all so scummy. Kind of like this website.

Holy crap another woman being a typical woman. Letting some guy think he's all important and liked just so he'll humiliate himself, think that he's a reject and get one step closer to blowing a black guy...thanks women everywhere

When we're young (in particular) we make terrible mistakes. All of us. We don't see signs, we react to problems in crazy ways and we don't know how to put it right. It's sad that she did this.

Sadly you were misled and possibly used. She probably should not have hit you in my opinion. However, maybe you should consider asking if she wants to be your girlfriend before you thrust your lips apon her?

Both of ya'll got ya'll's signals mixed up.

It sounds like you might have mis-read the situation, that's all. We've all done it. She might have liked your company and friendship, and was shocked to be kissed because she didn't see it as something romantic - she saw you as a friend. Perhaps you could let it cool down for a while and then just say "sorry I did that - I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable. Can we still be friends?"

I feel where you're coming from honestly. She never set a definite line there and basically wanted a friendship with boyfriend benefits. She knew you liked her or you wouldn't go out of your way for her. But next time a situation like that comes up, just ask how the woman feels about you before doing anything physical.

As for her, forget about her. It was never going to go anywhere and once you stopped using your resources on her, she was gonna find another man to friendzone and drop you anyway. Grown women don't just use men or other women.