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Everytime I chat with someone online and I genuinely like them without knowing their looks, this usually happens. I ask for a pic and if they're ugly, I immediately lose interest no matter how hard I try to talk to them I don't find them interesting and they repulse me. Is it normal? Any way how to stop being this way?
I wouldn't be interested in you because you're ugly on the inside due to that shallow attitude of yours.
I think it depends on the degree.
Honestly, I think most very ugly people are only ugly because they've neglected themselves for a long time. It's things like lacking hygiene, not grooming/styling themselves nicely, and neglecting their health with regards to their weight and eating poorly. I'm not 10/10 myself and I know it, but I do take care of my appearance and it shows, so I expect the same in a potential partner.
It's "shallow" to me when you're setting your standards impossibly high, and not giving someone a chance just because they're not perfection/model material.
You're just superifical, you only care about the surface. It's part of being immature and stupid.
Eventually, you'll date someone who meets your appearance requirments and either find nothing interesting about her personality or she's going to treat you like a peasant who is a dime a dozen, because she knows she looks good and that guys will do anything for her.
Good luck.
Uh oh... I was called shallow for the same kind of reasoning. But I think your normal I wouldn't want to be with a unattractive partner either.
It's normal to lose sexual interest if you don't find someone attractive, of course. But finding them repulsive? That's just mean. Are all your friends pretty?
I get that if you're specifically looking for a romantic partner you wouldn't want to waste any energy on people you'r not attracted to. But outside of that context why does it matter?
Sorry, I'm not being fair. It's not your fault what you're feeling and you wanted to change.
I find the best way to connect to someone on a deeper level is to share something personal. If you want to find things that make someone truly interesting you have to open up.
Maybe you could also try this: When you don't know what somebody looks like, assume they're ugly. Then when you find them interesting you'll know you really like their personality. Otherwise you might end up with a super boring hot person.